Sacred Space

Creating It.  Sharing it.  Opening to It.

Do you have Sacred Space?

Space in your home, job, relationship, a schedule that is just for you?Do you safeguard it? Treasure it? Honor it?

OR…do you feel like there’s no time, no room, no freedom to have such a luxury in your life?

What do I mean by Sacred Space?

My home is my Sacred Space. So are my gardens. My bedroom. My workspace. My meditation room.

Being in Nature is Sacred to me. Time alone is Sacred to me. Space in my relationships is Sacred too! And, especially, time on my calendar each day and every week for tuning into this Space.

And it has been also a place for me to hide. I love Solitude. Silence. Space to be still, be wild, dance and sing as I feel the urge. AND, I’ve used this as a fortress to keep away the intimacy, (both romantic and sister-friendship) that I also crave.

How to manage the Space with the Sharing of it?

I’m a new AirBnB host. I’ve opened up a portion of my small home to visitors from around the world who are coming to St. Louis to visit.

Yikes! This is a big deal. Not just the cleaning and clearing of closets, it’s the sharing of my SPACE. How will this effect my own work and love life? There’s already a day I had planned to be out of town and I’m supposed to be hosting.

Yet, it’s important for me to trust this process. It’s next on the swing back from living with NO space, not even knowing how to find it or own it to the opposite end of the spectrum, creating, protecting it, honoring it and NOT sharing at all.

Now, it’s time to share part time. Open my home. My heart. My business.

The new possibilities are endless. I’m excited to see what comes of this. New friends? A new way to work keeping order and organization? Extra Income? A way to write off housecleaning? The space set aside for VIP Clients?

The connections to all of this are not lost on me. And the timing is exquisite as I open to allowing a broader more expansive version of my work to emerge.

How do you maintain your Space? Physically? Emotionally? Intellectually? Spiritually?

I’d be delighted to connect with you more on this subject. Reach out if you feel this hit a chord and it’s time!

SHINE on dear One. The world needs you and your light.

Perspective

Perspective.
It’s tricky. And we believe there’s only one. ours.
What are you looking for in that person who drives you nuts every day?What are you expecting when you get home at night from your partner?

What pre-conceived ideas are you bringing into a meeting versus being open-minded and ready to listen and learn?

When we operate from the place that we already know we will be disappointed, or that our mate is selfish or that this is just another boring meeting with the boss, we get to be right, more often than not.

How do we change our perspective?

Walk around and look at the issue, person, relationship or challenge from all sides. Invite others to share what they see (if it involves them or you value their viewpoint) or literally put on different lenses.

Just like wearing sunglasses can sometimes alter the color of an object, or wearing reading glasses can help some of us see the letters more clearly, looking at an issue from the other side or with a lens of curiosity gives us a wider range of options and potential solutions.

We often have disagreements with people (especially online these days, it seems) for seeing political or social issues from different viewpoints. What if both sides are valid and the Truth is neither or both?

And, when we bring our negative views forward or grudges from past experiences to the table, it’s not fair for anyone. Not the person we are judging, not the potential outcome for all involved, not for ourself. It’s limiting and another place to expand our awareness.

Where do you place your lens of perception? With whom do you look for the best? What about yourSelf? Do you give yourSelf the benefit of a doubt or automatically say, “You are so stupid/klutzy/silly/ugly/fat _______(insert your word here).” “There’s no way you’ll get this done in time.” “You’re always late.”

OR…

“You are amazing!” “You look beautiful today!” “ I believe in you, and we’re just learning this new exercise/process/technology/way of operating.” “Great progress – you’re becoming more aware every day.” “Let’s change the time we leave so we can feel better and arrive on time.”

It’s all in how we look at things. It’s all in the self-talk. It’s also, all in how we look at others and our relationships. I’m looking.for more good in mine today, how about you?

Occupy Self

Remember Occupy Wall Street?

How protesters camped out to make sure their message was received? They physically and literally stood their ground asking to be heard.

Same with the folks who gathered for weeks at Standing Rock, protesting and blocking the progress of the pipeline across their lands. Even amidst the bitter cold and water blasts from law enforcement, they stayed put…chanting, praying, and in nonviolent protest.

What do you stand for?

Who do you stand for?

Typically, most of us have a cause or our children/family that will activate our inner protester.

What is yours?

When the Occupy movement was happening, I started looking at where I was spending my money. And, who these companies supported politically. I learned that many of my monthly bills were heading to coffers that were backing legislation that wasn’t aligned with my values.

That meant my money was going towards creating a world that was not in alignment to what I knew I wanted. So, I protested, in my own way. I left one communications company and found another that was a nonprofit, donating profits monthly toward causes I believed in. I shopped at stores that had a scorecard towards my values politically, environmentally, energetically. I did stay with my financial institution due to the relationships and history there but got out of another messy financial relationship.

All in all, I felt cleaner, more in alignment and happier.

It came up again the other day as I was planning for some upcoming workshops and retreats. It’s important to me that all of the activities that have my name on them be in alignment with my values, my vision, my voice.

Tune in today to learn more about how you can Occupy yourSelf and use your power to create change.

Be the Change…It’s time to put your time, energy, money and power where your heart is.

Authentic Commitment :: The C Word

What are you committed to? What will you do – no matter what else happens – every day?

Commitment usually comes up in relationships. Yet, the most important relationship we have is the one with ourself. How are you doing in that one? Do you tend to commit to others and then slide on your word or commitment to yourself?

I do. I have. And, I’m aware of it now. We can’t build Trust with ourSelf unless we commit to ourSelf. Commit and keep our word to ourSelf.

Self-Trust is the driver that sees my dreams and visions through to reality. It’s the fuel that keeps me moving forward even when it’s tough, or I don’t feel like it, or there’s too much on my plate already.

When I commit to something, it tends to get done.

Goal setting has never been motivating to me. However, when I make a commitment to greet the sky each morning and stretch and touch my toes, breathing in connection to the stars, sun, moon, Earth, I know it’s the foundation of my day. Things tend to be easier. I’m grounded and in the flow.

I can expand the practice if I have more time or leave it at just one minute. The key is to do it every day.  It’s a sign of commitment to Momentum and Trust in Self and the Universe’s support and my work in the world.

While listening to a spiritual teacher yesterday who talked about Commitment, I got it. There are lots of things I say I want to do, I am doing or are written in my journal, but what am I committed to?

A few months back, I actually held my own Commitment Ceremony. I found a ring that had been sitting in my jewelry drawer for ages and placed it on my finger and said, “This ring symbolizes my Commitment. To Me, My Work in the World, and to Consciously Receiving Support from all helpful allies (seen and unseen).” I asked for guidance and blessing on this Commitment/Marriage/Union and now, when looking at it daily, feeling its weight heavy on my right index finger, remember the Commitment and Meaning. It’s become a touchstone.

Listen in as I relay a bit more of my story and the essential role of Authentic Commitment.

Authentic Pause :: Slowing Down to Recharge

How do you recharge? In the 6 days since leaving home, there have been lots of activities, ranging from large noisy family dinners and brunches to my daughter’s graduation from college in Indiana, to partying at houses and bars to flying to Florida, visiting and staying with an amazing group of women friends in a palatial home.

We’ve stayed up late, eating cake and ice cream (to celebrate Merinda’s graduation, of course!) or just drinking wine and getting caught up. Last night, conversations got heavier, deeper, intimate. It was midnight before we knew it!

Swimming, lounging, and sunsets at the beach, combined with my shamanic business mastermind added to my day yesterday and reminded me that I’m neither totally on vacation or totally “at work.”

Yet, this feels right. Just enough of the creative and learning and growing I receive when working as well as the eating, drinking, slowness of vacation activities and time away.

Without realizing it I’m achieving my intention this week. I want to recharge. Reconnect. Remember who I am at a deeper level. Being with old friends and my daughter help me to see myself, learn about myself in a way it’s not easy to do alone.

And healing the old patterns of disconnection, aloneness, not belonging, not being lovable or loved. The old stories in our psyche, emotional space, and physical bodies are literally melting away. The “I’m broken.” “I don’t belong.” “I’m such a weirdo…”

When we are with a sisterhood, that special circle of family and friends who see us deeply, with compassion and love and little to no judgment (we are human after all!) it’s a safe space to BE. Heal. Fall into Wholeness.

And this is where we regain, recharge and remember our power. The universal power that is always present and flows through us, connecting us to all that is and the potential of all that could be. When here, I find it easiest to tap into my vision, receiving wisdom and intuition and then use this passion/life force energy to create. Moving forward in my bigger vision and life’s work.

So, that is where we’ll start today. Not sure with all the swirling around of new learnings and experiences and downloads recently received, where we’ll go!

Feel free to share with me what this full moon energy is shifting, growing, releasing and bringing to you! You are the reason I create these. Thank you for the honor to do so!

Authentic Passion :: Finding it and Fueling it

Passion. It comes. Then it goes.

We find it. Fuel it and it grows. And, too often, we lose it and have to find it again.

It was very clear to me that I’ve been wallowing around in deep waters of emotional stuff for the last week or two, then after attending a few community events in the span of a week, I remembered who I am and what lights me up!

Yes, I know, You always hear me saying that you need to turn on your own light, right? Shine it from within so that your radiance and brilliance lights up the space around you and all those who come into contact!

And, that’s true.

Yet, sometimes we just need to r e m e m b e r…

Remember WHO we truly are. WHAT our gifts are. FEEL our Desire. IMAGINE what we are here to do in this one, wild and crazy life.

Yesterday, my Passion returned. After a few chance meetings where I put my Authentic Self out there, I felt it. That bright light turned on and turned up. It was shining all over everyone I connected with. It felt amazing!

I could write about it. Talk about it. I felt the LIGHT shining so brightly, just like the brilliant sun we got to see after days of rain! I got lots done!

So, today on this very wet, gray, cold spring day, my passion feels dimmed. Less bright. After waking too early and not returning to sleep, and skipping my morning ritual for the 2nd day in a row, I said a quick grounding prayer as I drove a roundabout way to my breakfast meeting at the edge of 2 main thoroughfares that were closed due to flooding, right beyond the venue.

The event was poorly attended due to the extensive flooding all around us. Yet, as if by some special divine design, 3 important conversations took place that opened up new opportunities for collaborative projects and strategic alliances!

Finding our Passion, that essence within that makes our heart sing is a personal journey. It’s funny how we blame outside circumstances or external forces or even our relationships from keeping us away from this essential life force. Once you discover your Passion, learn what fuels it and really turns you on, make sure to build that activity or energy into your week – no matter what else is going on.

Feel free to share this with someone who might resonate with the message. We need our support system, circle of sisters or love and/or biz partners to know what our Passion is and to help us remember to feed it a steady and nutritious diet, because we may forget. I did this week. Learned my lesson (again!)

Let’s see where this goes, shall we?