We All Can Do It, So Why Don’t We?
Do you SHINE? If you do, how do you feel when you SHINE?
If you don’t, are you afraid to SHINE? Feeling awkward or you’ll be viewed as a fraud or inauthentic? Or bragging and self-centered?
SHINE is a new way of BEing in the world. For me at least. It’s part of the journey I’ve been on and have not been able to fully articulate until now.
A month ago I shared this concept with a room full of women entrepreneurs. The response was a resounding “Yes!” and I believe I hit a chord with everyone in the room.
SHINE is the acronym for Self-Awareness, Holistic Health, Integrity, No limits, and Equanimity and Environment. This fully explains the scope of workshops and retreats and consulting all focused on Leadership Development.
What happens on the days when SHINing is NOT what you want to do?
Tune in, let’s explore this. It’s up for me today and how can we move from unSHINE to SunSHINE when it feels like that’s the last thing we want to do?
I’ll see if I can shift this less than sun-shiny funk I’m in …or not! It might just be where I am today or there might be a way to get out of it.
No promises. Here goes!
Doubt. That 2nd-guessing. Wondering how it could have played out differently. Reviewing the memory over and over and wishing it were different. And, the loud voice that keeps us from taking that next step forward, asking the big question, sharing what’s real.
And/or Confusion. She’s tricky this one. She loves to keep us in “we need more info” mode, or “I’m not sure what to do next” place or “I just wish I had clarity on what is the right decision for me now” space. Been there. A lot.
And, when paired together? They activate each other. Like Synergy, but gone awry. It can get ugly.
Both of these shadow selves are present for me this week. (and are pretty familiar each time I reach an edge, a growth phase or a new chapter of my life.) They can look different, but just like someone who changes their hair color, I can recognize them. The sneaky part is that they like to appear quietly, silently hijacking my momentum, shifting gears into low (or Park) until I notice that I’m not going anywhere! I’m stalled. And then it’s a bit late.
So, this week, my amazing business coach and I were talking about them. (I’ve actually named them Debbie Doubter and Connie Confusion) and my desire to fire them, release them, remove them or heal them. The suggestion I received was to “promote” them. What????
Promoting them to come from their Gift side, their flip persona of Inquiry and Illumination felt RIGHT. Perfect. And timely. Allowing them to still be valuable and necessary parts of me and to shine from their Gifts allows me to move into bringing them forward in my life in all ways, always.
The brilliant outcome of this promotion ceremony is the more cohesive way of recognizing when they are showing up. To bring forth their gifts in each interaction and then shine from within their highest spiritual teachings of Truth and Illumination! And how these already show up as guiding values and principles for me in my life and work? Divine guidance indeed!
So let’s dive in. These are real show-stoppers and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to get on with the Show!
Passion. It comes. Then it goes.
We find it. Fuel it and it grows. And, too often, we lose it and have to find it again.
It was very clear to me that I’ve been wallowing around in deep waters of emotional stuff for the last week or two, then after attending a few community events in the span of a week, I remembered who I am and what lights me up!
Yes, I know, You always hear me saying that you need to turn on your own light, right? Shine it from within so that your radiance and brilliance lights up the space around you and all those who come into contact!
And, that’s true.
Yet, sometimes we just need to r e m e m b e r…
Remember WHO we truly are. WHAT our gifts are. FEEL our Desire. IMAGINE what we are here to do in this one, wild and crazy life.
Yesterday, my Passion returned. After a few chance meetings where I put my Authentic Self out there, I felt it. That bright light turned on and turned up. It was shining all over everyone I connected with. It felt amazing!
I could write about it. Talk about it. I felt the LIGHT shining so brightly, just like the brilliant sun we got to see after days of rain! I got lots done!
So, today on this very wet, gray, cold spring day, my passion feels dimmed. Less bright. After waking too early and not returning to sleep, and skipping my morning ritual for the 2nd day in a row, I said a quick grounding prayer as I drove a roundabout way to my breakfast meeting at the edge of 2 main thoroughfares that were closed due to flooding, right beyond the venue.
The event was poorly attended due to the extensive flooding all around us. Yet, as if by some special divine design, 3 important conversations took place that opened up new opportunities for collaborative projects and strategic alliances!
Finding our Passion, that essence within that makes our heart sing is a personal journey. It’s funny how we blame outside circumstances or external forces or even our relationships from keeping us away from this essential life force. Once you discover your Passion, learn what fuels it and really turns you on, make sure to build that activity or energy into your week – no matter what else is going on.
Feel free to share this with someone who might resonate with the message. We need our support system, circle of sisters or love and/or biz partners to know what our Passion is and to help us remember to feed it a steady and nutritious diet, because we may forget. I did this week. Learned my lesson (again!)
Let’s see where this goes, shall we?
Years ago this book arrived in a gift bag with several other items from a friend who saw me better than I saw myself.
I devoured it.
Each word sang to me, woke me up, brought a resonance to my soul that has long been asleep.
And, it seems to call to me each time I need to wake up again.
Are you waking up? If so, it can be daunting. The lights seem so bright, the sounds too loud. The activity too busy. And, it makes us want to dive back into our covers and go back to sleep.
Yet, these times are calling us out of slumber. Whether courageous and wanting to risk, grow and change or not, we are unable to find the comfort in slumber we used to.
We have been preparing for this. We know that, on some level, we are ready. And, here is my invitation to you. Listen in and stay awake. We’ve been holding it together for too long.