Simple Pleasures

The Art of Simplicity

I wanted to write about Play. The Art of Play. Authentic Play for us adult people.

It felt so beyond my day-to-day experience I was afraid it would come across as inauthentic.

So, starting simply, as I remind my clients, I looked at my morning practices. This morning, in particular, it included saying good morning to the sunrise and sky, then moving into a daily routine of cat care, kitchen cleanup, walking recycling out to the dumpster, making and eating breakfast (today eaten outside in the sun on my back stoop) and checking out the garden.

My garden walk is getting to be more about appreciating the bounty and beauty than noticing what needs to be cleared or worry about the overgrowth of weeds in areas.

Setting up the sprinkler in 3 different places to get the back, side and front yards is the Simple Pleasure that made me smile. Ta-Da! Found my topic for today.

Listening to the water spray and its intensity as it winds back to the original spot is soothing. Great background for meditation…which I’ll complete before recording.

What are your Simple Pleasures? Remember the magazine Real Simple? I loved it for many years. The feel of the paper, the odd oversized shape, the beautiful photos and well-written articles that spoke my language. Even though I didn’t practice what they wrote about, I longed for “that life.”

Little by little, that magazine has been the foundation for this life of mine today. That and the book, Simple Abundance by Sarah BanBreathnach, was life-changing for me as I dreamed this life into being.

We are doing that all the time. Dreaming our one and only precious life (this time around, anyway) into BEing.

So, how are you practicing Simplicity and enjoying Simple Pleasures? Simple, yet elegant tasty meals? Simple, yet meaningful gatherings with friends? Simple and sacred moments for yourSelf? For me, it’s a cup of coffee, staring at the big oak tree or sky and ruminating about my day before heading into planning or meditation or creating this podcast/newsletter.

This is an essential piece of the puzzle for me to SHINE. It’s also a basic principle for the work I do in Authentic Leadership. We are all meant to be living on Purpose, with Passion and experiencing Pleasure. I actually think it may be the other way around.

Beginning with Pleasure.

What makes your heart sing? Do more of that. Really. We would all love you more. And you would be more in love with yourSelf, your Life.

To learn more about The SHINE Principle, visit http://DeborahLeeAnn.com/Shine or connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com

© 2017 Deborah LeeAnn All Rights Reserved#SHINE

Authentic Gardening

The Weeding and Watering of You!

I love to do Garden Walks.

Similar to a longer Medicine Walk that I both practice as well as facilitate for clients, a Garden Walk allows me to take an assessment of what’s going on.

Where are the weeds or invasive plants getting out of hand?

What needs water? Or, what needs to be emptied from water gathering?

What plants are bearing fruit? Which ones look healthy? Which ones need to be staked and supported? Which ones are just being beautiful and graceful and wanting to be appreciated?

When I’m weeding, I like to see how “clean” the space looks after the undesirable plant is removed. I enjoy the feeling of getting the whole thing, by the roots, to ensure it doesn’t just come back. It’s more of a tending and clearing than fighting. That’s not how it used to be. I used to act like the weed was doing something “to me.” Taking up space and nourishment that belongs to other plants I like more. They were “Wrong.”

It used to be it was the “fight” against these weeds that took more energy. Now, it’s the looking forward to what the space would look like without them. I’m finding that clearing the weeds is a feeding energy. A positive one.

I pile up the weeds to die on the hot pavers and then compost them for future plants to be nurtured by. The other plants in the garden now have breathing space and I enjoy the beauty that results.

It’s a win-win for all.

This week’s podcast is about where we put out energy. Are we feeding the good or giving more energy to the unwanted? Fighting or fueling?

Join in to listen to what unfolds.

And drink lots of water, and notice where your energy is flowing. Nourish what you find beautiful, including your gorgeous Self!

Authentic Purpose

While speaking to a few clients recently, we discussed what “lights them up” or makes their “heart sing.”

In each case, it has to do with doing work they love: work that has meaning for them, uses their strengths and talents, and that that brings them joy.

It’s 3 pronged.

Being “on purpose.” Being “in joy.” All while using our unique gifts and competencies.

The beauty is …when we are creating a life that is full of meaning, deeply aligned with who we are and what we do well and best AND that is pleasurable to us, we SHINE.

Often, we hear “Wow, you look so happy!” Or, “What are you doing differently” or “Are you in Love?” when we are in the flow of creating and living a life we love.

So, are you?

Creating and living a life you LOVE?

One that is on your terms? Built on what feels true and authentic to you?

My garden is currently displaying these “wildflowers” from a packet of seeds spread last year. There are beautiful old-fashioned phlox that just bloom in all their beauty no matter the heat or rain. They just keep standing tall and doing their thing. Living their purpose. Not worried about drought or humidity or what the news is blaring.

This has become my new mantra. To tune in and remember the fullness, beauty, and sovereignty of Who. I. Am.

The wholeness/holiness and inner connection (or intersection) of all of me. The embodiment of my Soul. The beaming of my heart. The brilliance of ME that cannot be denied.

So where does that light go when we are confronted with Showing Up? Sharing who we are with the world? Expressing our Self amidst colleagues and other SHINING souls? Or those we believe are less SHINE-y than ourSelves?

Where do you dim to fit in? Or quasi-SHINE with an inauthentic “trying to be better than”? Or, be honest, hold back our SHINE in fear of being judged as “too bright” or “too much”?

Listen in. Let’s see what unfolds.

We’re all in this together. And the more each of us SHINEs the more we create a brighter world. There’s plenty of room for all of us to SHINE!

I welcome your feedback! For more information on the SHINE workshop series or to make a comment or ask a question, please connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com.

S H I N E

We All Can Do It, So Why Don’t We?

Do you SHINE? If you do, how do you feel when you SHINE?
If you don’t, are you afraid to SHINE? Feeling awkward or you’ll be viewed as a fraud or inauthentic? Or bragging and self-centered?

SHINE is a new way of BEing in the world. For me at least. It’s part of the journey I’ve been on and have not been able to fully articulate until now.

A month ago I shared this concept with a room full of women entrepreneurs. The response was a resounding “Yes!” and I believe I hit a chord with everyone in the room.

SHINE is the acronym for Self-Awareness, Holistic Health, Integrity, No limits, and Equanimity and Environment. This fully explains the scope of workshops and retreats and consulting all focused on Leadership Development.

AND…

What happens on the days when SHINing is NOT what you want to do?

Tune in, let’s explore this. It’s up for me today and how can we move from unSHINE to SunSHINE when it feels like that’s the last thing we want to do?

I’ll see if I can shift this less than sun-shiny funk I’m in …or not! It might just be where I am today or there might be a way to get out of it.

No promises. Here goes!

Sacred Space

Creating It.  Sharing it.  Opening to It.

Do you have Sacred Space?

Space in your home, job, relationship, a schedule that is just for you?Do you safeguard it? Treasure it? Honor it?

OR…do you feel like there’s no time, no room, no freedom to have such a luxury in your life?

What do I mean by Sacred Space?

My home is my Sacred Space. So are my gardens. My bedroom. My workspace. My meditation room.

Being in Nature is Sacred to me. Time alone is Sacred to me. Space in my relationships is Sacred too! And, especially, time on my calendar each day and every week for tuning into this Space.

And it has been also a place for me to hide. I love Solitude. Silence. Space to be still, be wild, dance and sing as I feel the urge. AND, I’ve used this as a fortress to keep away the intimacy, (both romantic and sister-friendship) that I also crave.

How to manage the Space with the Sharing of it?

I’m a new AirBnB host. I’ve opened up a portion of my small home to visitors from around the world who are coming to St. Louis to visit.

Yikes! This is a big deal. Not just the cleaning and clearing of closets, it’s the sharing of my SPACE. How will this effect my own work and love life? There’s already a day I had planned to be out of town and I’m supposed to be hosting.

Yet, it’s important for me to trust this process. It’s next on the swing back from living with NO space, not even knowing how to find it or own it to the opposite end of the spectrum, creating, protecting it, honoring it and NOT sharing at all.

Now, it’s time to share part time. Open my home. My heart. My business.

The new possibilities are endless. I’m excited to see what comes of this. New friends? A new way to work keeping order and organization? Extra Income? A way to write off housecleaning? The space set aside for VIP Clients?

The connections to all of this are not lost on me. And the timing is exquisite as I open to allowing a broader more expansive version of my work to emerge.

How do you maintain your Space? Physically? Emotionally? Intellectually? Spiritually?

I’d be delighted to connect with you more on this subject. Reach out if you feel this hit a chord and it’s time!

SHINE on dear One. The world needs you and your light.

Authentic Commitment :: The C Word

What are you committed to? What will you do – no matter what else happens – every day?

Commitment usually comes up in relationships. Yet, the most important relationship we have is the one with ourself. How are you doing in that one? Do you tend to commit to others and then slide on your word or commitment to yourself?

I do. I have. And, I’m aware of it now. We can’t build Trust with ourSelf unless we commit to ourSelf. Commit and keep our word to ourSelf.

Self-Trust is the driver that sees my dreams and visions through to reality. It’s the fuel that keeps me moving forward even when it’s tough, or I don’t feel like it, or there’s too much on my plate already.

When I commit to something, it tends to get done.

Goal setting has never been motivating to me. However, when I make a commitment to greet the sky each morning and stretch and touch my toes, breathing in connection to the stars, sun, moon, Earth, I know it’s the foundation of my day. Things tend to be easier. I’m grounded and in the flow.

I can expand the practice if I have more time or leave it at just one minute. The key is to do it every day.  It’s a sign of commitment to Momentum and Trust in Self and the Universe’s support and my work in the world.

While listening to a spiritual teacher yesterday who talked about Commitment, I got it. There are lots of things I say I want to do, I am doing or are written in my journal, but what am I committed to?

A few months back, I actually held my own Commitment Ceremony. I found a ring that had been sitting in my jewelry drawer for ages and placed it on my finger and said, “This ring symbolizes my Commitment. To Me, My Work in the World, and to Consciously Receiving Support from all helpful allies (seen and unseen).” I asked for guidance and blessing on this Commitment/Marriage/Union and now, when looking at it daily, feeling its weight heavy on my right index finger, remember the Commitment and Meaning. It’s become a touchstone.

Listen in as I relay a bit more of my story and the essential role of Authentic Commitment.