S H I N E

We All Can Do It, So Why Don’t We?

Do you SHINE? If you do, how do you feel when you SHINE?
If you don’t, are you afraid to SHINE? Feeling awkward or you’ll be viewed as a fraud or inauthentic? Or bragging and self-centered?

SHINE is a new way of BEing in the world. For me at least. It’s part of the journey I’ve been on and have not been able to fully articulate until now.

A month ago I shared this concept with a room full of women entrepreneurs. The response was a resounding “Yes!” and I believe I hit a chord with everyone in the room.

SHINE is the acronym for Self-Awareness, Holistic Health, Integrity, No limits, and Equanimity and Environment. This fully explains the scope of workshops and retreats and consulting all focused on Leadership Development.

AND…

What happens on the days when SHINing is NOT what you want to do?

Tune in, let’s explore this. It’s up for me today and how can we move from unSHINE to SunSHINE when it feels like that’s the last thing we want to do?

I’ll see if I can shift this less than sun-shiny funk I’m in …or not! It might just be where I am today or there might be a way to get out of it.

No promises. Here goes!

Sacred Space

Creating It.  Sharing it.  Opening to It.

Do you have Sacred Space?

Space in your home, job, relationship, a schedule that is just for you?Do you safeguard it? Treasure it? Honor it?

OR…do you feel like there’s no time, no room, no freedom to have such a luxury in your life?

What do I mean by Sacred Space?

My home is my Sacred Space. So are my gardens. My bedroom. My workspace. My meditation room.

Being in Nature is Sacred to me. Time alone is Sacred to me. Space in my relationships is Sacred too! And, especially, time on my calendar each day and every week for tuning into this Space.

And it has been also a place for me to hide. I love Solitude. Silence. Space to be still, be wild, dance and sing as I feel the urge. AND, I’ve used this as a fortress to keep away the intimacy, (both romantic and sister-friendship) that I also crave.

How to manage the Space with the Sharing of it?

I’m a new AirBnB host. I’ve opened up a portion of my small home to visitors from around the world who are coming to St. Louis to visit.

Yikes! This is a big deal. Not just the cleaning and clearing of closets, it’s the sharing of my SPACE. How will this effect my own work and love life? There’s already a day I had planned to be out of town and I’m supposed to be hosting.

Yet, it’s important for me to trust this process. It’s next on the swing back from living with NO space, not even knowing how to find it or own it to the opposite end of the spectrum, creating, protecting it, honoring it and NOT sharing at all.

Now, it’s time to share part time. Open my home. My heart. My business.

The new possibilities are endless. I’m excited to see what comes of this. New friends? A new way to work keeping order and organization? Extra Income? A way to write off housecleaning? The space set aside for VIP Clients?

The connections to all of this are not lost on me. And the timing is exquisite as I open to allowing a broader more expansive version of my work to emerge.

How do you maintain your Space? Physically? Emotionally? Intellectually? Spiritually?

I’d be delighted to connect with you more on this subject. Reach out if you feel this hit a chord and it’s time!

SHINE on dear One. The world needs you and your light.

Authentic Commitment :: The C Word

What are you committed to? What will you do – no matter what else happens – every day?

Commitment usually comes up in relationships. Yet, the most important relationship we have is the one with ourself. How are you doing in that one? Do you tend to commit to others and then slide on your word or commitment to yourself?

I do. I have. And, I’m aware of it now. We can’t build Trust with ourSelf unless we commit to ourSelf. Commit and keep our word to ourSelf.

Self-Trust is the driver that sees my dreams and visions through to reality. It’s the fuel that keeps me moving forward even when it’s tough, or I don’t feel like it, or there’s too much on my plate already.

When I commit to something, it tends to get done.

Goal setting has never been motivating to me. However, when I make a commitment to greet the sky each morning and stretch and touch my toes, breathing in connection to the stars, sun, moon, Earth, I know it’s the foundation of my day. Things tend to be easier. I’m grounded and in the flow.

I can expand the practice if I have more time or leave it at just one minute. The key is to do it every day.  It’s a sign of commitment to Momentum and Trust in Self and the Universe’s support and my work in the world.

While listening to a spiritual teacher yesterday who talked about Commitment, I got it. There are lots of things I say I want to do, I am doing or are written in my journal, but what am I committed to?

A few months back, I actually held my own Commitment Ceremony. I found a ring that had been sitting in my jewelry drawer for ages and placed it on my finger and said, “This ring symbolizes my Commitment. To Me, My Work in the World, and to Consciously Receiving Support from all helpful allies (seen and unseen).” I asked for guidance and blessing on this Commitment/Marriage/Union and now, when looking at it daily, feeling its weight heavy on my right index finger, remember the Commitment and Meaning. It’s become a touchstone.

Listen in as I relay a bit more of my story and the essential role of Authentic Commitment.

Dancing with the old and familiar Doubt and Confusion Sisters

Doubt. That 2nd-guessing. Wondering how it could have played out differently. Reviewing the memory over and over and wishing it were different. And, the loud voice that keeps us from taking that next step forward, asking the big question, sharing what’s real.

And/or Confusion. She’s tricky this one. She loves to keep us in “we need more info” mode, or “I’m not sure what to do next” place or “I just wish I had clarity on what is the right decision for me now” space. Been there. A lot.

And, when paired together? They activate each other. Like Synergy, but gone awry. It can get ugly.

Both of these shadow selves are present for me this week. (and are pretty familiar each time I reach an edge, a growth phase or a new chapter of my life.) They can look different, but just like someone who changes their hair color, I can recognize them. The sneaky part is that they like to appear quietly, silently hijacking my momentum, shifting gears into low (or Park) until I notice that I’m not going anywhere! I’m stalled. And then it’s a bit late.

So, this week, my amazing business coach and I were talking about them. (I’ve actually named them Debbie Doubter and Connie Confusion) and my desire to fire them, release them, remove them or heal them. The suggestion I received was to “promote” them. What????

Promoting them to come from their Gift side, their flip persona of Inquiry and Illumination felt RIGHT. Perfect. And timely. Allowing them to still be valuable and necessary parts of me and to shine from their Gifts allows me to move into bringing them forward in my life in all ways, always.

The brilliant outcome of this promotion ceremony is the more cohesive way of recognizing when they are showing up. To bring forth their gifts in each interaction and then shine from within their highest spiritual teachings of Truth and Illumination! And how these already show up as guiding values and principles for me in my life and work? Divine guidance indeed!

So let’s dive in. These are real show-stoppers and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to get on with the Show!

Authentic Passion :: Finding it and Fueling it

Passion. It comes. Then it goes.

We find it. Fuel it and it grows. And, too often, we lose it and have to find it again.

It was very clear to me that I’ve been wallowing around in deep waters of emotional stuff for the last week or two, then after attending a few community events in the span of a week, I remembered who I am and what lights me up!

Yes, I know, You always hear me saying that you need to turn on your own light, right? Shine it from within so that your radiance and brilliance lights up the space around you and all those who come into contact!

And, that’s true.

Yet, sometimes we just need to r e m e m b e r…

Remember WHO we truly are. WHAT our gifts are. FEEL our Desire. IMAGINE what we are here to do in this one, wild and crazy life.

Yesterday, my Passion returned. After a few chance meetings where I put my Authentic Self out there, I felt it. That bright light turned on and turned up. It was shining all over everyone I connected with. It felt amazing!

I could write about it. Talk about it. I felt the LIGHT shining so brightly, just like the brilliant sun we got to see after days of rain! I got lots done!

So, today on this very wet, gray, cold spring day, my passion feels dimmed. Less bright. After waking too early and not returning to sleep, and skipping my morning ritual for the 2nd day in a row, I said a quick grounding prayer as I drove a roundabout way to my breakfast meeting at the edge of 2 main thoroughfares that were closed due to flooding, right beyond the venue.

The event was poorly attended due to the extensive flooding all around us. Yet, as if by some special divine design, 3 important conversations took place that opened up new opportunities for collaborative projects and strategic alliances!

Finding our Passion, that essence within that makes our heart sing is a personal journey. It’s funny how we blame outside circumstances or external forces or even our relationships from keeping us away from this essential life force. Once you discover your Passion, learn what fuels it and really turns you on, make sure to build that activity or energy into your week – no matter what else is going on.

Feel free to share this with someone who might resonate with the message. We need our support system, circle of sisters or love and/or biz partners to know what our Passion is and to help us remember to feed it a steady and nutritious diet, because we may forget. I did this week. Learned my lesson (again!)

Let’s see where this goes, shall we?

An Authentic Invitation for you, Sweet Sister

 

Years ago this book arrived in a gift bag with several other items from a friend who saw me better than I saw myself.

I devoured it.

Each word sang to me, woke me up, brought a resonance to my soul that has long been asleep.

And, it seems to call to me each time I need to wake up again.

Are you waking up? If so, it can be daunting. The lights seem so bright, the sounds too loud. The activity too busy. And, it makes us want to dive back into our covers and go back to sleep.

Yet, these times are calling us out of slumber. Whether courageous and wanting to risk, grow and change or not, we are unable to find the comfort in slumber we used to.

We have been preparing for this. We know that, on some level, we are ready. And, here is my invitation to you. Listen in and stay awake. We’ve been holding it together for too long.