Letting Go Authentically

It’s harvest time for many but not for me. Autumn is my “spring cleaning” time.

Letting Go to Live More Fully is one of my mantras and I’m typically singing it as I welcome this time of year.

I’m finding myself tossing old items, giving away piles of clothing and linens, cleaning out toiletries, (how does that drawer get so cluttered?) and generally, cleaning house.

Culling from my freezer and pantry too. Getting off of mailing and email lists. Aligning my bank accounts. And, reviewing/assessing/releasing relationships. This one is the hardest.

This brings me to my topic for today. When we consciously make the decision to walk away from a person who has been a big part of our life, it’s a big deal. So is standing up and asking for things to change. And, additionally, being willing, AND READY, to leave if they don’t.

So, here is that time of year. Mastermind circles ending. My first Authentic Leadership Academy coming to a close, the realization that the romantic relationship I’m in is no longer where I’m flourishing and happy.

With all of this “letting go” comes a sense of clarity. Freedom. More space to BE. And, the fear of being “alone” is also present.

Many of my friends, clients and colleagues are coupled. If you are one, you may not understand what I’m going through, It’s been one hell of a decade since my divorce, and I thought I was done healing.

Maybe we are never done. Just like we are never complete.

Here’s to seeing where this takes me and how I’ll grow in the process!
“Landslide” cover and full Sweet Letting Go playlist on Spotify by desiremap ((Danielle LaPorte)

©2017 www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Cultivating our Character in the New Axial Era

Did you know we are in the New Axial Era? A pivotal time when converging thoughts/philosophies/cultures/religions are driving us to an evolution of humanity?

The first one occurred in the first millennium BCE.

The phrase originated with the German psychiatrist and philosopher Karl Jaspers, who noted that during this period there was a shift—or a turn, as if on an axis—away from more predominantly localized concerns and toward transcendence.

(love this, as I’m all about Transcendence and Transformation…)

More info is here: https://www.britannica.com/list/the-axial-age-5-fast-facts

We are on the wave of a New Axial Era. A pivot point.

The importance of Character and its role in Education, Leadership, and Community is not a new concept. However, it ‘s been lost amidst our reverence for Science and Technology, Math and Engineering.

We’ve left philosophy and religion to pick up the education and development of Character (what makes you uniquely you) as now it’s time to drive the forging of discovering and developing our Character Strengths with areas of Passion and to fuel and create change.

That is shifting now.

Media and the millennials are driving forward the merging of personal passions with innovation to create an impact on the world. And we all need to get on board.

AND, today is Character Day 2017!

When I first heard about it from change agent, Karen Hoffman, Founder of Gateway to Dreams, (just to name one of her entrepreneurial pursuits) I thought, “Oh, this is cool. Segues nicely with my work, happy to be a part of it.”

However, in the weeks leading up to it as an Ambassador and Facilitator of this global event occurring in hundreds of countries and all 50 states on the same day, I’ve gotten more excited.

Blending beautiful video imagery with both local and global discussions and interaction can be illuminating for all involved and can truly ignite the fires of creativity and community change we are ready for.

Find an event near you or at least watch the movies at http://www.letitripple.org/character-day/

And as always, SHINE on with YOUR unique Character Strengths and Passion! How can you use them in Creating the Change YOU want to see?

©️Copyright 2017 DeborahLeeAnn.com and Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Integrity – BEing All In

Are you too open?

Operating more from outside influences (people’s expectations, society’s norms, cultural or religious practices?) or from your own Inner Guidance System?

When we “go with the flow” sometimes we are not checking in to see if it’s our Flow. Our own wisdom. Our own soul’s whispering of where our heart is desiring to go.

This is what I call Living Outside of Ourself. I know it well. It is how I spent the first 50 years of my life.

Even when I felt strongly about something and shared my view in a conversation or heated discussion, I could feel persuaded to move/shift/turn away from it by listening to another’s well-reasoned explanation or perspective.

It felt wishy-washy. I wasn’t sure where I stood sometimes. I could see the world through so many other’s eyes, I wasn’t confident in what I was really seeing.

Sometimes that is a good thing.

Anything at ALL times is not a good thing.

I listened to all the gurus, teachers, experts, and wise ones and would shift and slip away from my own Truth.

This was good in some ways. Just not in ALL ways.

How do you determine what is right for you? Where you stand? What your Inner Wise One is saying versus when to listen and learn from others?

Where do you stand in Integrity? Wholeness? Self-Alignment?

That’s the topic today. Let’s see where this takes us…

As always, I welcome your comments, suggestions, questions, and conversation.

Join us in the Facebook Group SHINE Challenge or message me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com

Much love and gratitude for you being here with me on this Journey!

©️2017 SHINE Principle www.DeborahLeeAnn.com

Post-Eclipse and Awareness

So, where were YOU during the Great American Eclipse?

Whether you experienced Totality or not, I’m certain the experience was meaningful. Some enjoyed the science of it, others the photography challenges of capturing the beauty, others were deep in spiritual ceremony and ritual. Everyone was moved in some way, even if they ran outside into the street to capture it for only a moment during a break from work.

For such a momentous occasion, I did something quite unlike me. I was with a party of revelers – some of whom popped their first beer (artisan brand that it was) at 7:15 am. This well-orchestrated event was planned months ago and I appreciated not having to make any arrangements and just show up.

So Show Up I did.

We were at a large multi-leveled outdoor space an hour outside of town, with all breakfast and barbecue lunch and refreshments included. A variety of outdoor games and oversized Jenga and Chess boards entertained many. Seating arrangements varied from couches, to tables and chairs, to picnic tables and benches, plus indoor dining areas all filled with groups in conversation and live music. There was a constant and steady buzz that surrounded me. I felt like an observer of it all.

I watched myself pull away to find space and journal. I noticed when I got up to change seating arrangements or moved into different circles of conversation. I enjoyed sipping coffee and water and beer as the day wore on and relaxing. It felt like being on vacation. By myself.

I enjoyed moving when I felt like it, enjoying my body’s grace and strength and sitting and feeling the breeze when it wafted over me on occasion. I listened to my body when it asked for more water, please! or it’s time to get something to eat, or only one bite of the Moon Pie, methinks.

As the day wore on, I noticed how I searched out certain people to speak with and later realized I only once learned someone’s name. Yet, we exchanged deep, almost intimate details about our lives. It was not a day of light conversation.

It was also interesting to note that I spent most of the day in the company of men. Two different couples, a group of young people with 3 guys and one gal, an older gentleman and his son who was close to my age, and the very handsome and interesting friend of a friend who came in town to visit for the event.

An all around different kind of day for me; one who normally stays home and shies away from these types of party events.

And, the best part? I got to SHINE. I played with it all day. It was fun, fascinating and easy. AND, so freeing to not feel I needed to play a role, entertain anyone, be anything other than who I am. Wow!

The moon tried to cover the sun for those 2 1/2 minutes, and the sun still made beautiful light flares and rings around it. Almost hugging that which tried to eclipse it. Surrounding it and shining anyway.

Reminding me and all of us that we are still Light, even when there are obstacles (real or imaginary) that are trying to dim our Light.

What looks or feels different to you now? What has shifted for you? I’d love to hear! Share with me in The SHINE Challenge Facebook Group.

SHINE on! It’s our reason for living. It’s also our Purpose. And Passion. And Pleasure.

© Copyright 2017 Deborah LeeAnn :: Authentic Life Radio

Authentic Gardening

The Weeding and Watering of You!

I love to do Garden Walks.

Similar to a longer Medicine Walk that I both practice as well as facilitate for clients, a Garden Walk allows me to take an assessment of what’s going on.

Where are the weeds or invasive plants getting out of hand?

What needs water? Or, what needs to be emptied from water gathering?

What plants are bearing fruit? Which ones look healthy? Which ones need to be staked and supported? Which ones are just being beautiful and graceful and wanting to be appreciated?

When I’m weeding, I like to see how “clean” the space looks after the undesirable plant is removed. I enjoy the feeling of getting the whole thing, by the roots, to ensure it doesn’t just come back. It’s more of a tending and clearing than fighting. That’s not how it used to be. I used to act like the weed was doing something “to me.” Taking up space and nourishment that belongs to other plants I like more. They were “Wrong.”

It used to be it was the “fight” against these weeds that took more energy. Now, it’s the looking forward to what the space would look like without them. I’m finding that clearing the weeds is a feeding energy. A positive one.

I pile up the weeds to die on the hot pavers and then compost them for future plants to be nurtured by. The other plants in the garden now have breathing space and I enjoy the beauty that results.

It’s a win-win for all.

This week’s podcast is about where we put out energy. Are we feeding the good or giving more energy to the unwanted? Fighting or fueling?

Join in to listen to what unfolds.

And drink lots of water, and notice where your energy is flowing. Nourish what you find beautiful, including your gorgeous Self!

Authentic Purpose

While speaking to a few clients recently, we discussed what “lights them up” or makes their “heart sing.”

In each case, it has to do with doing work they love: work that has meaning for them, uses their strengths and talents, and that that brings them joy.

It’s 3 pronged.

Being “on purpose.” Being “in joy.” All while using our unique gifts and competencies.

The beauty is …when we are creating a life that is full of meaning, deeply aligned with who we are and what we do well and best AND that is pleasurable to us, we SHINE.

Often, we hear “Wow, you look so happy!” Or, “What are you doing differently” or “Are you in Love?” when we are in the flow of creating and living a life we love.

So, are you?

Creating and living a life you LOVE?

One that is on your terms? Built on what feels true and authentic to you?

My garden is currently displaying these “wildflowers” from a packet of seeds spread last year. There are beautiful old-fashioned phlox that just bloom in all their beauty no matter the heat or rain. They just keep standing tall and doing their thing. Living their purpose. Not worried about drought or humidity or what the news is blaring.

This has become my new mantra. To tune in and remember the fullness, beauty, and sovereignty of Who. I. Am.

The wholeness/holiness and inner connection (or intersection) of all of me. The embodiment of my Soul. The beaming of my heart. The brilliance of ME that cannot be denied.

So where does that light go when we are confronted with Showing Up? Sharing who we are with the world? Expressing our Self amidst colleagues and other SHINING souls? Or those we believe are less SHINE-y than ourSelves?

Where do you dim to fit in? Or quasi-SHINE with an inauthentic “trying to be better than”? Or, be honest, hold back our SHINE in fear of being judged as “too bright” or “too much”?

Listen in. Let’s see what unfolds.

We’re all in this together. And the more each of us SHINEs the more we create a brighter world. There’s plenty of room for all of us to SHINE!

I welcome your feedback! For more information on the SHINE workshop series or to make a comment or ask a question, please connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com.