Dialogue vs Debate

Authentic Communications

It’s the holiday season (perhaps you’ve noticed?) with lots of events on the calendar providing us with lots of opportunities to be with “other-minded” people. Whether family, neighbors, co-workers or even circles of friends, we are more and more learning the contentiousness that conversations can become. How can we view these opportunities as a place to SHINE?

Speaking our truth amongst like-minded folks is great for validation and massaging of our ego.

Speaking our truth amid “others” can be scary. Isolating. Possibly life-threatening (or so it feels!)

Is the alternative not engaging? Walking away and not saying anything? Unfriending on social media? Getting another drink or hitting the buffet table to “deal with it” by numbing or stuffing it?

Or, possibly, responding and engaging.

Asking for clarification.

Learning where someone else stands and why they feel that way. Asking if they ever wondered if _____________ was possible? Or thought about it this way (state another view here)?

Each time I leave a racial awareness, social justice, diversity type of training or workshop I learn new techniques to continue the dialogue. Share more authentically. Listen more deeply. Broaden my views and add to my confidence.

It doesn’t mean it’s not scary. I still over-think and wonder if that post on LinkedIn has put me in a box with potential clients or friends. No one responded or engaged with me. Crickets.

Yet it was my truth. It’s my way of showing up. Sharing me and who I am in the marketplace. And, I believe it will attract the ideal clients who want to work with someone with my values as well as my experience and expertise.

Some additional ideas for Dialogue?

After exploring and agreeing that there are differences in views or beliefs, ask if there is interest in finding common ground as well.

Remember to model being a bridge-builder, one who is calmly (even if passionately) wanting to learn from the other, create a relationship and keep the door open to further dialogue.

This is a way to collaborate, come together and explore solutions and not be the “owner” of the truth. There are many paths to it. How can we walk together and find new solutions, together?

Nothing risked, nothing gained. Join me in not being a silent partner in systemic racism, sexism, classism, and all the other barriers to humanism.

© 2017 Deborah LeeAnn Morley www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Returning Home

And Turning on the Light

What am I speaking on, ranting on, sharing about or wanting to shine with today? I’m ready to open my heart and share what can be the most useful, most valuable to those who are listening.

Do I start by blessing you? Or by blessing me? Blessing my wisdom, channel Source, inspired words and the messaging reaches the audience with just what they are ready to hear and allow?

Is it my gift to share in this way?

Or is video blogging better, where I”m speaking to you more directly?

Either way, I’m not sure. When I start second-guessing, the flow becomes constricted.

OK, so Grounding. Centering. Breathing mySelf back Home.

Today, I am speaking my truth. Sharing from my heart, soul, and inspiration.

Opening up to be the brightest Lightworker I can be. Or a Whitelighter.

If you ever watched the old TV show, Charmed, you would understand the Whitelighter role. It’s the guardian angel who helps heal, guide and support the ones doing good magic in the world. Whitelighters also protect and nurture them for their intended destiny.

You see, that’s where I like to play. In the support of each of you stepping more fully into your power. Into your roles of change agent. Into the next highest, brilliant source of Good you are here to share.

Today’s leaders need Whitelighters. We all do.

It’s a universal feeling, don’t you think? To bask in the security of being watched over, guided and loved with no conditions. Reminded of who we are as we get off track and forget and held during times of illness or trauma.

It’s time we recognize we are not here to do our great work ALONE. We are much stronger, powerful, magical, effective and brilliant when we come together in unity.

But first, we need to come home. Do our inner work. Tune in, turn on and turn up our Essence. From this place, we can SHINE. We can SHARE. We can co-create. We can serve. We can live, love, lead with Authenticity, Grace, and Power.

So today is about Coming Home. Returning to our own Selves. Regenerating, renewing, remembering the power of “I am.”

Then, help others. Then, allow support in. Only then, give. From here, receive. Allow, Be guided. Inspired. Co-create.

Then we can go on out and do our Great Work.

© 2017 Deborah LeeAnn www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Letting Go Authentically

It’s harvest time for many but not for me. Autumn is my “spring cleaning” time.

Letting Go to Live More Fully is one of my mantras and I’m typically singing it as I welcome this time of year.

I’m finding myself tossing old items, giving away piles of clothing and linens, cleaning out toiletries, (how does that drawer get so cluttered?) and generally, cleaning house.

Culling from my freezer and pantry too. Getting off of mailing and email lists. Aligning my bank accounts. And, reviewing/assessing/releasing relationships. This one is the hardest.

This brings me to my topic for today. When we consciously make the decision to walk away from a person who has been a big part of our life, it’s a big deal. So is standing up and asking for things to change. And, additionally, being willing, AND READY, to leave if they don’t.

So, here is that time of year. Mastermind circles ending. My first Authentic Leadership Academy coming to a close, the realization that the romantic relationship I’m in is no longer where I’m flourishing and happy.

With all of this “letting go” comes a sense of clarity. Freedom. More space to BE. And, the fear of being “alone” is also present.

Many of my friends, clients and colleagues are coupled. If you are one, you may not understand what I’m going through, It’s been one hell of a decade since my divorce, and I thought I was done healing.

Maybe we are never done. Just like we are never complete.

Here’s to seeing where this takes me and how I’ll grow in the process!
“Landslide” cover and full Sweet Letting Go playlist on Spotify by desiremap ((Danielle LaPorte)

©2017 www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Cultivating our Character in the New Axial Era

Did you know we are in the New Axial Era? A pivotal time when converging thoughts/philosophies/cultures/religions are driving us to an evolution of humanity?

The first one occurred in the first millennium BCE.

The phrase originated with the German psychiatrist and philosopher Karl Jaspers, who noted that during this period there was a shift—or a turn, as if on an axis—away from more predominantly localized concerns and toward transcendence.

(love this, as I’m all about Transcendence and Transformation…)

More info is here: https://www.britannica.com/list/the-axial-age-5-fast-facts

We are on the wave of a New Axial Era. A pivot point.

The importance of Character and its role in Education, Leadership, and Community is not a new concept. However, it ‘s been lost amidst our reverence for Science and Technology, Math and Engineering.

We’ve left philosophy and religion to pick up the education and development of Character (what makes you uniquely you) as now it’s time to drive the forging of discovering and developing our Character Strengths with areas of Passion and to fuel and create change.

That is shifting now.

Media and the millennials are driving forward the merging of personal passions with innovation to create an impact on the world. And we all need to get on board.

AND, today is Character Day 2017!

When I first heard about it from change agent, Karen Hoffman, Founder of Gateway to Dreams, (just to name one of her entrepreneurial pursuits) I thought, “Oh, this is cool. Segues nicely with my work, happy to be a part of it.”

However, in the weeks leading up to it as an Ambassador and Facilitator of this global event occurring in hundreds of countries and all 50 states on the same day, I’ve gotten more excited.

Blending beautiful video imagery with both local and global discussions and interaction can be illuminating for all involved and can truly ignite the fires of creativity and community change we are ready for.

Find an event near you or at least watch the movies at http://www.letitripple.org/character-day/

And as always, SHINE on with YOUR unique Character Strengths and Passion! How can you use them in Creating the Change YOU want to see?

©️Copyright 2017 DeborahLeeAnn.com and Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Integrity – BEing All In

Are you too open?

Operating more from outside influences (people’s expectations, society’s norms, cultural or religious practices?) or from your own Inner Guidance System?

When we “go with the flow” sometimes we are not checking in to see if it’s our Flow. Our own wisdom. Our own soul’s whispering of where our heart is desiring to go.

This is what I call Living Outside of Ourself. I know it well. It is how I spent the first 50 years of my life.

Even when I felt strongly about something and shared my view in a conversation or heated discussion, I could feel persuaded to move/shift/turn away from it by listening to another’s well-reasoned explanation or perspective.

It felt wishy-washy. I wasn’t sure where I stood sometimes. I could see the world through so many other’s eyes, I wasn’t confident in what I was really seeing.

Sometimes that is a good thing.

Anything at ALL times is not a good thing.

I listened to all the gurus, teachers, experts, and wise ones and would shift and slip away from my own Truth.

This was good in some ways. Just not in ALL ways.

How do you determine what is right for you? Where you stand? What your Inner Wise One is saying versus when to listen and learn from others?

Where do you stand in Integrity? Wholeness? Self-Alignment?

That’s the topic today. Let’s see where this takes us…

As always, I welcome your comments, suggestions, questions, and conversation.

Join us in the Facebook Group SHINE Challenge or message me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com

Much love and gratitude for you being here with me on this Journey!

©️2017 SHINE Principle www.DeborahLeeAnn.com

Post-Eclipse and Awareness

So, where were YOU during the Great American Eclipse?

Whether you experienced Totality or not, I’m certain the experience was meaningful. Some enjoyed the science of it, others the photography challenges of capturing the beauty, others were deep in spiritual ceremony and ritual. Everyone was moved in some way, even if they ran outside into the street to capture it for only a moment during a break from work.

For such a momentous occasion, I did something quite unlike me. I was with a party of revelers – some of whom popped their first beer (artisan brand that it was) at 7:15 am. This well-orchestrated event was planned months ago and I appreciated not having to make any arrangements and just show up.

So Show Up I did.

We were at a large multi-leveled outdoor space an hour outside of town, with all breakfast and barbecue lunch and refreshments included. A variety of outdoor games and oversized Jenga and Chess boards entertained many. Seating arrangements varied from couches, to tables and chairs, to picnic tables and benches, plus indoor dining areas all filled with groups in conversation and live music. There was a constant and steady buzz that surrounded me. I felt like an observer of it all.

I watched myself pull away to find space and journal. I noticed when I got up to change seating arrangements or moved into different circles of conversation. I enjoyed sipping coffee and water and beer as the day wore on and relaxing. It felt like being on vacation. By myself.

I enjoyed moving when I felt like it, enjoying my body’s grace and strength and sitting and feeling the breeze when it wafted over me on occasion. I listened to my body when it asked for more water, please! or it’s time to get something to eat, or only one bite of the Moon Pie, methinks.

As the day wore on, I noticed how I searched out certain people to speak with and later realized I only once learned someone’s name. Yet, we exchanged deep, almost intimate details about our lives. It was not a day of light conversation.

It was also interesting to note that I spent most of the day in the company of men. Two different couples, a group of young people with 3 guys and one gal, an older gentleman and his son who was close to my age, and the very handsome and interesting friend of a friend who came in town to visit for the event.

An all around different kind of day for me; one who normally stays home and shies away from these types of party events.

And, the best part? I got to SHINE. I played with it all day. It was fun, fascinating and easy. AND, so freeing to not feel I needed to play a role, entertain anyone, be anything other than who I am. Wow!

The moon tried to cover the sun for those 2 1/2 minutes, and the sun still made beautiful light flares and rings around it. Almost hugging that which tried to eclipse it. Surrounding it and shining anyway.

Reminding me and all of us that we are still Light, even when there are obstacles (real or imaginary) that are trying to dim our Light.

What looks or feels different to you now? What has shifted for you? I’d love to hear! Share with me in The SHINE Challenge Facebook Group.

SHINE on! It’s our reason for living. It’s also our Purpose. And Passion. And Pleasure.

© Copyright 2017 Deborah LeeAnn :: Authentic Life Radio