Integrity – BEing All In

Are you too open?

Operating more from outside influences (people’s expectations, society’s norms, cultural or religious practices?) or from your own Inner Guidance System?

When we “go with the flow” sometimes we are not checking in to see if it’s our Flow. Our own wisdom. Our own soul’s whispering of where our heart is desiring to go.

This is what I call Living Outside of Ourself. I know it well. It is how I spent the first 50 years of my life.

Even when I felt strongly about something and shared my view in a conversation or heated discussion, I could feel persuaded to move/shift/turn away from it by listening to another’s well-reasoned explanation or perspective.

It felt wishy-washy. I wasn’t sure where I stood sometimes. I could see the world through so many other’s eyes, I wasn’t confident in what I was really seeing.

Sometimes that is a good thing.

Anything at ALL times is not a good thing.

I listened to all the gurus, teachers, experts, and wise ones and would shift and slip away from my own Truth.

This was good in some ways. Just not in ALL ways.

How do you determine what is right for you? Where you stand? What your Inner Wise One is saying versus when to listen and learn from others?

Where do you stand in Integrity? Wholeness? Self-Alignment?

That’s the topic today. Let’s see where this takes us…

As always, I welcome your comments, suggestions, questions, and conversation.

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Much love and gratitude for you being here with me on this Journey!

©️2017 SHINE Principle www.DeborahLeeAnn.com

Authentic Purpose

While speaking to a few clients recently, we discussed what “lights them up” or makes their “heart sing.”

In each case, it has to do with doing work they love: work that has meaning for them, uses their strengths and talents, and that that brings them joy.

It’s 3 pronged.

Being “on purpose.” Being “in joy.” All while using our unique gifts and competencies.

The beauty is …when we are creating a life that is full of meaning, deeply aligned with who we are and what we do well and best AND that is pleasurable to us, we SHINE.

Often, we hear “Wow, you look so happy!” Or, “What are you doing differently” or “Are you in Love?” when we are in the flow of creating and living a life we love.

So, are you?

Creating and living a life you LOVE?

One that is on your terms? Built on what feels true and authentic to you?

My garden is currently displaying these “wildflowers” from a packet of seeds spread last year. There are beautiful old-fashioned phlox that just bloom in all their beauty no matter the heat or rain. They just keep standing tall and doing their thing. Living their purpose. Not worried about drought or humidity or what the news is blaring.

This has become my new mantra. To tune in and remember the fullness, beauty, and sovereignty of Who. I. Am.

The wholeness/holiness and inner connection (or intersection) of all of me. The embodiment of my Soul. The beaming of my heart. The brilliance of ME that cannot be denied.

So where does that light go when we are confronted with Showing Up? Sharing who we are with the world? Expressing our Self amidst colleagues and other SHINING souls? Or those we believe are less SHINE-y than ourSelves?

Where do you dim to fit in? Or quasi-SHINE with an inauthentic “trying to be better than”? Or, be honest, hold back our SHINE in fear of being judged as “too bright” or “too much”?

Listen in. Let’s see what unfolds.

We’re all in this together. And the more each of us SHINEs the more we create a brighter world. There’s plenty of room for all of us to SHINE!

I welcome your feedback! For more information on the SHINE workshop series or to make a comment or ask a question, please connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com.

Conscious Creator or Reactive Victim

When seeing how I was allowing myself to get W A Y off-track today, I noticed that my thoughts were on a downward spiral.

And, after such a good morning!

Meditating, quiet time contemplating how to create my day, a great session with my shaman/business coach, some delicious coffee, and some creating of new connections for new business through a referral service..then BAM!

What I learned was that each of these “referrals” was costing me. Not even if they were qualified or for a $10,000 project, but even for single or short term $500 coaching package.

Ahhh, so this is the cost of being “in flow?”

Or, is it my resistance to being open to really having it come to me with grace and ease?

And, then the inner critic. The “I told you so!” The “you knew there would be a cost associated, didn’t you?” And on and on. Down the slippery slope of shame, doubt, confusion, until I hit victim. This is where I walk around, looking for something to eat, activities to distract, and ways to numb.

I really dislike feeling yucky like that anymore. And I am beginning to become aware of it earlier and earlier.

So, what to do now?

Focus.

Inward and downward. Remembering this is all temporary, and a result of where I WAS, not where I’m going.

Clarity emerges. Bit by bit. With each breath. I am in Creative space. Bye-bye Reactive Self. I’m back in the driver’s seat. And, from here, the words flow.

Momentum is like being in a canoe floating down stream. It’s easy. It feels good. The scenery changes and I get to see what is around me.

So unlike fighting against the current. Where all my attention is on pushing and striving.

Back in Flow. Back to Creating my Life.

More will be shared in the podcast, I’m sure. Listen in?

Share with me, where do you get stuck? What are your practices for turning yourSelf around?

Perspective

Perspective.
It’s tricky. And we believe there’s only one. ours.
What are you looking for in that person who drives you nuts every day?What are you expecting when you get home at night from your partner?

What pre-conceived ideas are you bringing into a meeting versus being open-minded and ready to listen and learn?

When we operate from the place that we already know we will be disappointed, or that our mate is selfish or that this is just another boring meeting with the boss, we get to be right, more often than not.

How do we change our perspective?

Walk around and look at the issue, person, relationship or challenge from all sides. Invite others to share what they see (if it involves them or you value their viewpoint) or literally put on different lenses.

Just like wearing sunglasses can sometimes alter the color of an object, or wearing reading glasses can help some of us see the letters more clearly, looking at an issue from the other side or with a lens of curiosity gives us a wider range of options and potential solutions.

We often have disagreements with people (especially online these days, it seems) for seeing political or social issues from different viewpoints. What if both sides are valid and the Truth is neither or both?

And, when we bring our negative views forward or grudges from past experiences to the table, it’s not fair for anyone. Not the person we are judging, not the potential outcome for all involved, not for ourself. It’s limiting and another place to expand our awareness.

Where do you place your lens of perception? With whom do you look for the best? What about yourSelf? Do you give yourSelf the benefit of a doubt or automatically say, “You are so stupid/klutzy/silly/ugly/fat _______(insert your word here).” “There’s no way you’ll get this done in time.” “You’re always late.”

OR…

“You are amazing!” “You look beautiful today!” “ I believe in you, and we’re just learning this new exercise/process/technology/way of operating.” “Great progress – you’re becoming more aware every day.” “Let’s change the time we leave so we can feel better and arrive on time.”

It’s all in how we look at things. It’s all in the self-talk. It’s also, all in how we look at others and our relationships. I’m looking.for more good in mine today, how about you?

Occupy Self

Remember Occupy Wall Street?

How protesters camped out to make sure their message was received? They physically and literally stood their ground asking to be heard.

Same with the folks who gathered for weeks at Standing Rock, protesting and blocking the progress of the pipeline across their lands. Even amidst the bitter cold and water blasts from law enforcement, they stayed put…chanting, praying, and in nonviolent protest.

What do you stand for?

Who do you stand for?

Typically, most of us have a cause or our children/family that will activate our inner protester.

What is yours?

When the Occupy movement was happening, I started looking at where I was spending my money. And, who these companies supported politically. I learned that many of my monthly bills were heading to coffers that were backing legislation that wasn’t aligned with my values.

That meant my money was going towards creating a world that was not in alignment to what I knew I wanted. So, I protested, in my own way. I left one communications company and found another that was a nonprofit, donating profits monthly toward causes I believed in. I shopped at stores that had a scorecard towards my values politically, environmentally, energetically. I did stay with my financial institution due to the relationships and history there but got out of another messy financial relationship.

All in all, I felt cleaner, more in alignment and happier.

It came up again the other day as I was planning for some upcoming workshops and retreats. It’s important to me that all of the activities that have my name on them be in alignment with my values, my vision, my voice.

Tune in today to learn more about how you can Occupy yourSelf and use your power to create change.

Be the Change…It’s time to put your time, energy, money and power where your heart is.