Simple Pleasures

The Art of Simplicity

I wanted to write about Play. The Art of Play. Authentic Play for us adult people.

It felt so beyond my day-to-day experience I was afraid it would come across as inauthentic.

So, starting simply, as I remind my clients, I looked at my morning practices. This morning, in particular, it included saying good morning to the sunrise and sky, then moving into a daily routine of cat care, kitchen cleanup, walking recycling out to the dumpster, making and eating breakfast (today eaten outside in the sun on my back stoop) and checking out the garden.

My garden walk is getting to be more about appreciating the bounty and beauty than noticing what needs to be cleared or worry about the overgrowth of weeds in areas.

Setting up the sprinkler in 3 different places to get the back, side and front yards is the Simple Pleasure that made me smile. Ta-Da! Found my topic for today.

Listening to the water spray and its intensity as it winds back to the original spot is soothing. Great background for meditation…which I’ll complete before recording.

What are your Simple Pleasures? Remember the magazine Real Simple? I loved it for many years. The feel of the paper, the odd oversized shape, the beautiful photos and well-written articles that spoke my language. Even though I didn’t practice what they wrote about, I longed for “that life.”

Little by little, that magazine has been the foundation for this life of mine today. That and the book, Simple Abundance by Sarah BanBreathnach, was life-changing for me as I dreamed this life into being.

We are doing that all the time. Dreaming our one and only precious life (this time around, anyway) into BEing.

So, how are you practicing Simplicity and enjoying Simple Pleasures? Simple, yet elegant tasty meals? Simple, yet meaningful gatherings with friends? Simple and sacred moments for yourSelf? For me, it’s a cup of coffee, staring at the big oak tree or sky and ruminating about my day before heading into planning or meditation or creating this podcast/newsletter.

This is an essential piece of the puzzle for me to SHINE. It’s also a basic principle for the work I do in Authentic Leadership. We are all meant to be living on Purpose, with Passion and experiencing Pleasure. I actually think it may be the other way around.

Beginning with Pleasure.

What makes your heart sing? Do more of that. Really. We would all love you more. And you would be more in love with yourSelf, your Life.

To learn more about The SHINE Principle, visit http://DeborahLeeAnn.com/Shine or connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com

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Authentic Purpose

While speaking to a few clients recently, we discussed what “lights them up” or makes their “heart sing.”

In each case, it has to do with doing work they love: work that has meaning for them, uses their strengths and talents, and that that brings them joy.

It’s 3 pronged.

Being “on purpose.” Being “in joy.” All while using our unique gifts and competencies.

The beauty is …when we are creating a life that is full of meaning, deeply aligned with who we are and what we do well and best AND that is pleasurable to us, we SHINE.

Often, we hear “Wow, you look so happy!” Or, “What are you doing differently” or “Are you in Love?” when we are in the flow of creating and living a life we love.

So, are you?

Creating and living a life you LOVE?

One that is on your terms? Built on what feels true and authentic to you?

My garden is currently displaying these “wildflowers” from a packet of seeds spread last year. There are beautiful old-fashioned phlox that just bloom in all their beauty no matter the heat or rain. They just keep standing tall and doing their thing. Living their purpose. Not worried about drought or humidity or what the news is blaring.

This has become my new mantra. To tune in and remember the fullness, beauty, and sovereignty of Who. I. Am.

The wholeness/holiness and inner connection (or intersection) of all of me. The embodiment of my Soul. The beaming of my heart. The brilliance of ME that cannot be denied.

So where does that light go when we are confronted with Showing Up? Sharing who we are with the world? Expressing our Self amidst colleagues and other SHINING souls? Or those we believe are less SHINE-y than ourSelves?

Where do you dim to fit in? Or quasi-SHINE with an inauthentic “trying to be better than”? Or, be honest, hold back our SHINE in fear of being judged as “too bright” or “too much”?

Listen in. Let’s see what unfolds.

We’re all in this together. And the more each of us SHINEs the more we create a brighter world. There’s plenty of room for all of us to SHINE!

I welcome your feedback! For more information on the SHINE workshop series or to make a comment or ask a question, please connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com.

Conscious Creator or Reactive Victim

When seeing how I was allowing myself to get W A Y off-track today, I noticed that my thoughts were on a downward spiral.

And, after such a good morning!

Meditating, quiet time contemplating how to create my day, a great session with my shaman/business coach, some delicious coffee, and some creating of new connections for new business through a referral service..then BAM!

What I learned was that each of these “referrals” was costing me. Not even if they were qualified or for a $10,000 project, but even for single or short term $500 coaching package.

Ahhh, so this is the cost of being “in flow?”

Or, is it my resistance to being open to really having it come to me with grace and ease?

And, then the inner critic. The “I told you so!” The “you knew there would be a cost associated, didn’t you?” And on and on. Down the slippery slope of shame, doubt, confusion, until I hit victim. This is where I walk around, looking for something to eat, activities to distract, and ways to numb.

I really dislike feeling yucky like that anymore. And I am beginning to become aware of it earlier and earlier.

So, what to do now?

Focus.

Inward and downward. Remembering this is all temporary, and a result of where I WAS, not where I’m going.

Clarity emerges. Bit by bit. With each breath. I am in Creative space. Bye-bye Reactive Self. I’m back in the driver’s seat. And, from here, the words flow.

Momentum is like being in a canoe floating down stream. It’s easy. It feels good. The scenery changes and I get to see what is around me.

So unlike fighting against the current. Where all my attention is on pushing and striving.

Back in Flow. Back to Creating my Life.

More will be shared in the podcast, I’m sure. Listen in?

Share with me, where do you get stuck? What are your practices for turning yourSelf around?

SHINING – A State of Being NOT Doing

This SHINE project I’m playing with is a constant state of evolving, metamorphosing, growing, changing, checking in. Lots of words that describe the intensity of the process depending on the day, the moment.

We SHINE when we are in our Essence. Owning our Beauty and Brilliance.

We dim when we pretend or hide or act from fear. When we are desperate for others to see us, like us, want us, hire us, love us.

This “dimming” takes its toll. Just like from abuse or neglect (chronic and repeated experiences of being injured physically, emotionally, or psychologically) our Essence will shut down.

How to get back to the brightness and brilliance of you?

Takes courage. Might be risky. Always is the  e x h a l e  of relief and pleasure on the other side.

And…, feeling a level of sovereignty and freedom in letting go of the mask, letting our uniqueness out, trusting our guidance and speaking from our authentic truth.

Sound good?

Listen in and let’s see if some of these practices can support you in SHINING and BE-ing your most magnificent and amazing Self.

As always, I’d love to hear from you. How do you dim your light? What helps you to SHINE with authenticity, grace, and power?

PS: I forgot to tell you my shortcut to getting present, after following the physical cues and breathing. It’s so simple. Yet very effective! It’s “BE here, NOW!”

Authentic Connection

 

The peace we feel when we drop the mask, veil, armor? Wow. It feels so luscious, free and … almost spiritual.

Why do we wear all of that protection?

Where did we learn to cover up? Fake it? Tell untruths? Pretend?

Radical acceptance, deep awareness and honest looking within has been my way of connecting. First WITHIN. Then without. I was taught and modeled the opposite.

Not sure where this message will go today as I unravel more about what it feels like to live an Authentic Life. What I do know is that as lonely and invisible as I used to feel along this journey has prepared me well to live in this space. My Space. My Truth.

What is your experience of living authentically? Where is it easy? Where do you feel like you want to hide or escape or pretend, numb out and not feel?

Savoring Beauty in all it’s Forms

We love Beauty.

We are inundated by media’s definition of Beauty.

We turn to what’s familiar and cultur’s idea of Beauty …versus seeking out the bizarre, different, odd, or strange.

We are trained early to see beauty, especially in women, as being small, young, sweet, sexy and similar. Similar? Yes, to what we know, what we are comfortable with. What we’ve grown up seeing or being told is beautiful. Each culture has its own Beauty standards. So, finding something (or being someone) other that what we were trained to believe is “beautiful”, makes us feel different from our family, friends, society…Think about all the “beautiful people” on the covers of magazines, on Facebook or Instagram feeds, or TV.

So, how can we feel Beautiful? Truly in love with our looks as well as our Shining Hearts & Souls? AND, be Unique. Standing out in our Brilliance?

Authentic Beauty is standing in our Fullness, our Wholeness, in our Powerful Body, while unapologetically sharing our intellectual and intuitive creative selves with the world. It’s knowing, deep down, that we are Enough. Perfectly imperfect and gorgeous, just by BE-ing Real. It’s caring so much for our inner and outer self that our Radiance glows…we are vibrant, magnetic, attractive and fully Sovereign. We don’t need anyone else or anything else to make us Whole.

Let’s dive in. This is a big one for many of us Women. And, an important part of becoming an Authentic Leader, A Woman of Presence, A Woman of Substance.

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