Simple Pleasures

The Art of Simplicity

I wanted to write about Play. The Art of Play. Authentic Play for us adult people.

It felt so beyond my day-to-day experience I was afraid it would come across as inauthentic.

So, starting simply, as I remind my clients, I looked at my morning practices. This morning, in particular, it included saying good morning to the sunrise and sky, then moving into a daily routine of cat care, kitchen cleanup, walking recycling out to the dumpster, making and eating breakfast (today eaten outside in the sun on my back stoop) and checking out the garden.

My garden walk is getting to be more about appreciating the bounty and beauty than noticing what needs to be cleared or worry about the overgrowth of weeds in areas.

Setting up the sprinkler in 3 different places to get the back, side and front yards is the Simple Pleasure that made me smile. Ta-Da! Found my topic for today.

Listening to the water spray and its intensity as it winds back to the original spot is soothing. Great background for meditation…which I’ll complete before recording.

What are your Simple Pleasures? Remember the magazine Real Simple? I loved it for many years. The feel of the paper, the odd oversized shape, the beautiful photos and well-written articles that spoke my language. Even though I didn’t practice what they wrote about, I longed for “that life.”

Little by little, that magazine has been the foundation for this life of mine today. That and the book, Simple Abundance by Sarah BanBreathnach, was life-changing for me as I dreamed this life into being.

We are doing that all the time. Dreaming our one and only precious life (this time around, anyway) into BEing.

So, how are you practicing Simplicity and enjoying Simple Pleasures? Simple, yet elegant tasty meals? Simple, yet meaningful gatherings with friends? Simple and sacred moments for yourSelf? For me, it’s a cup of coffee, staring at the big oak tree or sky and ruminating about my day before heading into planning or meditation or creating this podcast/newsletter.

This is an essential piece of the puzzle for me to SHINE. It’s also a basic principle for the work I do in Authentic Leadership. We are all meant to be living on Purpose, with Passion and experiencing Pleasure. I actually think it may be the other way around.

Beginning with Pleasure.

What makes your heart sing? Do more of that. Really. We would all love you more. And you would be more in love with yourSelf, your Life.

To learn more about The SHINE Principle, visit http://DeborahLeeAnn.com/Shine or connect with me at deborah@DeborahLeeAnn.com

© 2017 Deborah LeeAnn All Rights Reserved#SHINE

Authentic Gardening

The Weeding and Watering of You!

I love to do Garden Walks.

Similar to a longer Medicine Walk that I both practice as well as facilitate for clients, a Garden Walk allows me to take an assessment of what’s going on.

Where are the weeds or invasive plants getting out of hand?

What needs water? Or, what needs to be emptied from water gathering?

What plants are bearing fruit? Which ones look healthy? Which ones need to be staked and supported? Which ones are just being beautiful and graceful and wanting to be appreciated?

When I’m weeding, I like to see how “clean” the space looks after the undesirable plant is removed. I enjoy the feeling of getting the whole thing, by the roots, to ensure it doesn’t just come back. It’s more of a tending and clearing than fighting. That’s not how it used to be. I used to act like the weed was doing something “to me.” Taking up space and nourishment that belongs to other plants I like more. They were “Wrong.”

It used to be it was the “fight” against these weeds that took more energy. Now, it’s the looking forward to what the space would look like without them. I’m finding that clearing the weeds is a feeding energy. A positive one.

I pile up the weeds to die on the hot pavers and then compost them for future plants to be nurtured by. The other plants in the garden now have breathing space and I enjoy the beauty that results.

It’s a win-win for all.

This week’s podcast is about where we put out energy. Are we feeding the good or giving more energy to the unwanted? Fighting or fueling?

Join in to listen to what unfolds.

And drink lots of water, and notice where your energy is flowing. Nourish what you find beautiful, including your gorgeous Self!

Conscious Creator or Reactive Victim

When seeing how I was allowing myself to get W A Y off-track today, I noticed that my thoughts were on a downward spiral.

And, after such a good morning!

Meditating, quiet time contemplating how to create my day, a great session with my shaman/business coach, some delicious coffee, and some creating of new connections for new business through a referral service..then BAM!

What I learned was that each of these “referrals” was costing me. Not even if they were qualified or for a $10,000 project, but even for single or short term $500 coaching package.

Ahhh, so this is the cost of being “in flow?”

Or, is it my resistance to being open to really having it come to me with grace and ease?

And, then the inner critic. The “I told you so!” The “you knew there would be a cost associated, didn’t you?” And on and on. Down the slippery slope of shame, doubt, confusion, until I hit victim. This is where I walk around, looking for something to eat, activities to distract, and ways to numb.

I really dislike feeling yucky like that anymore. And I am beginning to become aware of it earlier and earlier.

So, what to do now?

Focus.

Inward and downward. Remembering this is all temporary, and a result of where I WAS, not where I’m going.

Clarity emerges. Bit by bit. With each breath. I am in Creative space. Bye-bye Reactive Self. I’m back in the driver’s seat. And, from here, the words flow.

Momentum is like being in a canoe floating down stream. It’s easy. It feels good. The scenery changes and I get to see what is around me.

So unlike fighting against the current. Where all my attention is on pushing and striving.

Back in Flow. Back to Creating my Life.

More will be shared in the podcast, I’m sure. Listen in?

Share with me, where do you get stuck? What are your practices for turning yourSelf around?

Push/Pull

The Growing Pains of Showing Up Authentically

We are halfway through 2017. Yikes! (says a part of me)

When reflecting on the first 6 months of this year, I had lots to celebrate. Lots of lessons learned too. And, it pushed me into a growth cycle of wanting to be farther along than my “results” are showing.

So, I got into a fast-paced mode. And, all the Up-leveling is taking its toll.

It’s part of growth and expansion, what we are all experiencing whether we like it or not.

Not only have I began a new iteration of my work – SHINE – I’ve begun a bed & breakfast business. And committed to speaking more. And expanding my consulting services. And publishing a new website.

All in the past month. Whew!

It’s not anything new for most of us entrepreneurs who are constantly evolving and expanding.

Yet, too much too quickly brings about tell-tale results for me.

Scattered-ness. Lack of preparation for a meeting with a potential collaborator. Stubbing my toe on a coffee table (OUCH) and then a mini-crisis with family. Needing to rearrange my day to fit in some extra TLC for my stepdad who is caring for my mother with Alzheimer’s. A technology mess of backup drive not working and a new malware showing up!

And that’s how my expansion tends to show up for me. A fast and furious growth spurt that ends up with physical, emotional and mental anguish.

And, thank you for the lesson again, the opportunity to recognize that slowing down is being called for. Less DOing, more BEing.

That was last week’s show but bears repeating. Slowing down allows us to grow faster.

And, just like my daughter when she was having a growth spurt, rubbing the sore shins or taking a bath or going to bed earlier are all ways to get to the next level.

SHINING and showing up takes more than courage and confidence. It takes compassion. The full recognition that we are human beings who will make mistakes, have accidents and want to re-do stuff. It takes letting go of perfection. AND, the kindness and compassion to allow for the process to unfold. For our SHINING Self to unfold. For our Vision, Value and Voice to ripple out more clearly and consciously than ever before. And to keep growing and shifting and evolving, just as we do.

We are a beautiful work in progress. Art being (re)created each and every day.

How are you showing up?

Sacred Space

Creating It.  Sharing it.  Opening to It.

Do you have Sacred Space?

Space in your home, job, relationship, a schedule that is just for you?Do you safeguard it? Treasure it? Honor it?

OR…do you feel like there’s no time, no room, no freedom to have such a luxury in your life?

What do I mean by Sacred Space?

My home is my Sacred Space. So are my gardens. My bedroom. My workspace. My meditation room.

Being in Nature is Sacred to me. Time alone is Sacred to me. Space in my relationships is Sacred too! And, especially, time on my calendar each day and every week for tuning into this Space.

And it has been also a place for me to hide. I love Solitude. Silence. Space to be still, be wild, dance and sing as I feel the urge. AND, I’ve used this as a fortress to keep away the intimacy, (both romantic and sister-friendship) that I also crave.

How to manage the Space with the Sharing of it?

I’m a new AirBnB host. I’ve opened up a portion of my small home to visitors from around the world who are coming to St. Louis to visit.

Yikes! This is a big deal. Not just the cleaning and clearing of closets, it’s the sharing of my SPACE. How will this effect my own work and love life? There’s already a day I had planned to be out of town and I’m supposed to be hosting.

Yet, it’s important for me to trust this process. It’s next on the swing back from living with NO space, not even knowing how to find it or own it to the opposite end of the spectrum, creating, protecting it, honoring it and NOT sharing at all.

Now, it’s time to share part time. Open my home. My heart. My business.

The new possibilities are endless. I’m excited to see what comes of this. New friends? A new way to work keeping order and organization? Extra Income? A way to write off housecleaning? The space set aside for VIP Clients?

The connections to all of this are not lost on me. And the timing is exquisite as I open to allowing a broader more expansive version of my work to emerge.

How do you maintain your Space? Physically? Emotionally? Intellectually? Spiritually?

I’d be delighted to connect with you more on this subject. Reach out if you feel this hit a chord and it’s time!

SHINE on dear One. The world needs you and your light.

Creating Space for Authenticity

Space. A block of time? A bit of quiet? An open shelf or drawer, an empty plate. How do you fill it?

It’s been said, “Nature abhors a vacuum”…and many of us do too. Notice how uncomfortable it is when the conversation dies down or the movie score goes silent?

Even the space between my upper and lower teeth is, too often, closed up, clenched, not allowed to be open, slack. And, now I have a hairline crack in one of my teeth to show that my unconscious, while I’m sleeping, is constricted, not relaxed, holding onto pent-up energy.

How can we open to allow ourselves to grow, expand and step into new realms of Love, Joy, Good, Magic, Prosperity? Into our next phase of Be-Coming?

I believe one step is to Create Space.

Just like we clean our homes before inviting friends over, or do spring cleaning (an ancient practice to welcome in the new being birthed at that time of year) we prepare for the new that is coming in, by relaxing, letting go, clearing space (yes, like in Feng Shui) and releasing old patterns to energetically, emotionally, physically and mentally, roll out the red carpet.

Let’s see what shows up by doing our end-of-the-year clearing and releasing.