Letting Go Authentically

It’s harvest time for many but not for me. Autumn is my “spring cleaning” time.

Letting Go to Live More Fully is one of my mantras and I’m typically singing it as I welcome this time of year.

I’m finding myself tossing old items, giving away piles of clothing and linens, cleaning out toiletries, (how does that drawer get so cluttered?) and generally, cleaning house.

Culling from my freezer and pantry too. Getting off of mailing and email lists. Aligning my bank accounts. And, reviewing/assessing/releasing relationships. This one is the hardest.

This brings me to my topic for today. When we consciously make the decision to walk away from a person who has been a big part of our life, it’s a big deal. So is standing up and asking for things to change. And, additionally, being willing, AND READY, to leave if they don’t.

So, here is that time of year. Mastermind circles ending. My first Authentic Leadership Academy coming to a close, the realization that the romantic relationship I’m in is no longer where I’m flourishing and happy.

With all of this “letting go” comes a sense of clarity. Freedom. More space to BE. And, the fear of being “alone” is also present.

Many of my friends, clients and colleagues are coupled. If you are one, you may not understand what I’m going through, It’s been one hell of a decade since my divorce, and I thought I was done healing.

Maybe we are never done. Just like we are never complete.

Here’s to seeing where this takes me and how I’ll grow in the process!
“Landslide” cover and full Sweet Letting Go playlist on Spotify by desiremap ((Danielle LaPorte)

©2017 www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Authentic Community

Stepping into a Higher Version

Last week I attended The Leadership Circle™ Summit. It was way more than a training opportunity. Or a vacation. Or a conference with like-minded hearts, minds and souls.

Last week was my own Axial experience.

“Axial” in that it was a pivotal moment when I could see all of who I have been coming together for this particular group of people, with that specific location, and those unique speakers and leaders. I knew it was going to be life-changing…just wish I knew how much was going to shift for me and those around me.

We had speakers from NASA to Harvard, experts from Google and MIT, Tai Chi Masters and international journalists and beekeepers who all shared their authentic selves and messages.

I was literally in heaven!

Beautiful conscious deep conversations…moments of transformative learning … tears and laughter of intimate sharing.

So many memories!

Lots of new people that I was initially feeling disconnected or separate from have now become new friends, colleagues, connections, and potential partners.

Then the re-entry. A term many of us at the Summit used to describe our returning to our Real Life. It’s been a rough one, personally, professionally and on a spiritual level too.

At this time of continued heartbreak, chaos, low confidence or trust in our nation’s leadership and the mixed messages from our media, it’s time for us to find this Summit within. And, from that strength of inner knowing, groundedness in our Truth and Wisdom, share and act from Compassion and Love in our circles, families, and communities.

I felt my own wings and heart expand and grow last week…not just my mind.

There was a deep knowing that I am perfectly perched, ready to take off and soar with my message.

It’s time to take a stand. Rooted in our physical self and connected to our divine self. Guided by our Passion/Purpose and Pleasure.

My new mantra for the next 100 days is:

I am a powerful creatrix who easily receives outrageous prosperity creating beauty and excellence all around me, simply by being my authentic embodied self.

What is yours?

©️ 2017 DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

 

Leading, Loving and Living

With Radiance and Vibrancy

How much do you SHINE? And, where?

Are you SHINING in some places in your life but not others? Are you aware of how you operate differently with different people? In different scenarios? In different roles?

It was easier for me to SHINE when at work for many years. My career offered me a place to be smart, witty, strategic, a people connector and a brilliant problem-solver. All strengths of mine.

When I was with clients I felt the most comfortable and engaged and fulfilled. I know now why that is, I enjoy helping them see different ways of operating their businesses, open to new ways of leading, learn about how they are getting in their own way and how to navigate differently.

I am a manifesting maven when it comes to supporting others in creating their dreams.

Not so much when it comes to my own.

Yet, the more I dip into, deepen in, or fully dive into my own dreams, I’m not feeling as magical. Not as powerful. Not that brilliant.

I know this is true for many of us. We love to support others, advocate for them, argue for their cause and open doors for them all while seeing them at their highest and best, especially when they forget. Think of how we parent!

And, then turn it around. Do we support ourself? Advocate for ourself? Argue for our own cause/value/mission/dream? Open doors and receive? See ourSelf at our Highest and best?

This is the direction I’m heading into today. While also exploring what creates that Radiant Health and Vibrant Energy that we all desire.

Share with me any thoughts you have in the Facebook Group, The SHINE Challenge.

We’re all in this together. And, we all SHINE a bit brighter when one of us shares their brilliance!

Post-Eclipse and Awareness

So, where were YOU during the Great American Eclipse?

Whether you experienced Totality or not, I’m certain the experience was meaningful. Some enjoyed the science of it, others the photography challenges of capturing the beauty, others were deep in spiritual ceremony and ritual. Everyone was moved in some way, even if they ran outside into the street to capture it for only a moment during a break from work.

For such a momentous occasion, I did something quite unlike me. I was with a party of revelers – some of whom popped their first beer (artisan brand that it was) at 7:15 am. This well-orchestrated event was planned months ago and I appreciated not having to make any arrangements and just show up.

So Show Up I did.

We were at a large multi-leveled outdoor space an hour outside of town, with all breakfast and barbecue lunch and refreshments included. A variety of outdoor games and oversized Jenga and Chess boards entertained many. Seating arrangements varied from couches, to tables and chairs, to picnic tables and benches, plus indoor dining areas all filled with groups in conversation and live music. There was a constant and steady buzz that surrounded me. I felt like an observer of it all.

I watched myself pull away to find space and journal. I noticed when I got up to change seating arrangements or moved into different circles of conversation. I enjoyed sipping coffee and water and beer as the day wore on and relaxing. It felt like being on vacation. By myself.

I enjoyed moving when I felt like it, enjoying my body’s grace and strength and sitting and feeling the breeze when it wafted over me on occasion. I listened to my body when it asked for more water, please! or it’s time to get something to eat, or only one bite of the Moon Pie, methinks.

As the day wore on, I noticed how I searched out certain people to speak with and later realized I only once learned someone’s name. Yet, we exchanged deep, almost intimate details about our lives. It was not a day of light conversation.

It was also interesting to note that I spent most of the day in the company of men. Two different couples, a group of young people with 3 guys and one gal, an older gentleman and his son who was close to my age, and the very handsome and interesting friend of a friend who came in town to visit for the event.

An all around different kind of day for me; one who normally stays home and shies away from these types of party events.

And, the best part? I got to SHINE. I played with it all day. It was fun, fascinating and easy. AND, so freeing to not feel I needed to play a role, entertain anyone, be anything other than who I am. Wow!

The moon tried to cover the sun for those 2 1/2 minutes, and the sun still made beautiful light flares and rings around it. Almost hugging that which tried to eclipse it. Surrounding it and shining anyway.

Reminding me and all of us that we are still Light, even when there are obstacles (real or imaginary) that are trying to dim our Light.

What looks or feels different to you now? What has shifted for you? I’d love to hear! Share with me in The SHINE Challenge Facebook Group.

SHINE on! It’s our reason for living. It’s also our Purpose. And Passion. And Pleasure.

© Copyright 2017 Deborah LeeAnn :: Authentic Life Radio

Wake Up White Women

What to say?

What to do?

How to be with People of Color?

I’m stuck. Truly. For one who is rarely short on words, I’m a bag of emotions.

And, not sure if I want to blame it on the mixed messages of our country’s leaders or Mercury Retrograde or centuries of history where white privilege has been the norm or the fact that my antennae are hyper focused on receiving messages that are beyond and out of alignment with what I see with my eyes…

Whiteness. White privilege. White women. White culture. We are so IN in, it’s hard to imagine NOT being in it. Yet we share this world, this country, our communities, our neighborhoods, sometimes even our families with those who do not identify as white.

Waking up is painful. It’s easier to go back to sleep. Yet, we can’t sleep this nightmare away. It’s our responsibility to at least acknowledge this isn’t right. It can’t continue. I disagree. This feels wrong.

And I am not just talking about the horrific events last weekend and the lack of accountability by our top government officials to denounce it in a way, apologize in a way, unify in a way, that I had hoped he would.

I am speaking of all ways. Always. Speaking up. Standing up. Moving beyond our fear. Showing up. Not agreeing. Or, not standing by in silence.

No more hiding. Leaders do not hide. They do their work. They SHINE their most brilliantly when the times get dark.

And, I’m learning, that SHINING is not always easy. Or pretty!

Listen in and let me know what resonates. What doesn’t? It’s time to practice opening up and sharing in a more vulnerable way. I’d love to witness that from you.

More info on SHINE Principle at http://DeborahLeeAnn.com/Shine

Join the SHINE Challenge on FB here: http://bit.ly/ShineFBChallenge

Til our next time together, SHINE your light with love, compassion, and authenticity!

Authentic Gardening

The Weeding and Watering of You!

I love to do Garden Walks.

Similar to a longer Medicine Walk that I both practice as well as facilitate for clients, a Garden Walk allows me to take an assessment of what’s going on.

Where are the weeds or invasive plants getting out of hand?

What needs water? Or, what needs to be emptied from water gathering?

What plants are bearing fruit? Which ones look healthy? Which ones need to be staked and supported? Which ones are just being beautiful and graceful and wanting to be appreciated?

When I’m weeding, I like to see how “clean” the space looks after the undesirable plant is removed. I enjoy the feeling of getting the whole thing, by the roots, to ensure it doesn’t just come back. It’s more of a tending and clearing than fighting. That’s not how it used to be. I used to act like the weed was doing something “to me.” Taking up space and nourishment that belongs to other plants I like more. They were “Wrong.”

It used to be it was the “fight” against these weeds that took more energy. Now, it’s the looking forward to what the space would look like without them. I’m finding that clearing the weeds is a feeding energy. A positive one.

I pile up the weeds to die on the hot pavers and then compost them for future plants to be nurtured by. The other plants in the garden now have breathing space and I enjoy the beauty that results.

It’s a win-win for all.

This week’s podcast is about where we put out energy. Are we feeding the good or giving more energy to the unwanted? Fighting or fueling?

Join in to listen to what unfolds.

And drink lots of water, and notice where your energy is flowing. Nourish what you find beautiful, including your gorgeous Self!