Sacred Space

Creating It.  Sharing it.  Opening to It.

Do you have Sacred Space?

Space in your home, job, relationship, a schedule that is just for you?Do you safeguard it? Treasure it? Honor it?

OR…do you feel like there’s no time, no room, no freedom to have such a luxury in your life?

What do I mean by Sacred Space?

My home is my Sacred Space. So are my gardens. My bedroom. My workspace. My meditation room.

Being in Nature is Sacred to me. Time alone is Sacred to me. Space in my relationships is Sacred too! And, especially, time on my calendar each day and every week for tuning into this Space.

And it has been also a place for me to hide. I love Solitude. Silence. Space to be still, be wild, dance and sing as I feel the urge. AND, I’ve used this as a fortress to keep away the intimacy, (both romantic and sister-friendship) that I also crave.

How to manage the Space with the Sharing of it?

I’m a new AirBnB host. I’ve opened up a portion of my small home to visitors from around the world who are coming to St. Louis to visit.

Yikes! This is a big deal. Not just the cleaning and clearing of closets, it’s the sharing of my SPACE. How will this effect my own work and love life? There’s already a day I had planned to be out of town and I’m supposed to be hosting.

Yet, it’s important for me to trust this process. It’s next on the swing back from living with NO space, not even knowing how to find it or own it to the opposite end of the spectrum, creating, protecting it, honoring it and NOT sharing at all.

Now, it’s time to share part time. Open my home. My heart. My business.

The new possibilities are endless. I’m excited to see what comes of this. New friends? A new way to work keeping order and organization? Extra Income? A way to write off housecleaning? The space set aside for VIP Clients?

The connections to all of this are not lost on me. And the timing is exquisite as I open to allowing a broader more expansive version of my work to emerge.

How do you maintain your Space? Physically? Emotionally? Intellectually? Spiritually?

I’d be delighted to connect with you more on this subject. Reach out if you feel this hit a chord and it’s time!

SHINE on dear One. The world needs you and your light.

Authentic Commitment :: The C Word

What are you committed to? What will you do – no matter what else happens – every day?

Commitment usually comes up in relationships. Yet, the most important relationship we have is the one with ourself. How are you doing in that one? Do you tend to commit to others and then slide on your word or commitment to yourself?

I do. I have. And, I’m aware of it now. We can’t build Trust with ourSelf unless we commit to ourSelf. Commit and keep our word to ourSelf.

Self-Trust is the driver that sees my dreams and visions through to reality. It’s the fuel that keeps me moving forward even when it’s tough, or I don’t feel like it, or there’s too much on my plate already.

When I commit to something, it tends to get done.

Goal setting has never been motivating to me. However, when I make a commitment to greet the sky each morning and stretch and touch my toes, breathing in connection to the stars, sun, moon, Earth, I know it’s the foundation of my day. Things tend to be easier. I’m grounded and in the flow.

I can expand the practice if I have more time or leave it at just one minute. The key is to do it every day.  It’s a sign of commitment to Momentum and Trust in Self and the Universe’s support and my work in the world.

While listening to a spiritual teacher yesterday who talked about Commitment, I got it. There are lots of things I say I want to do, I am doing or are written in my journal, but what am I committed to?

A few months back, I actually held my own Commitment Ceremony. I found a ring that had been sitting in my jewelry drawer for ages and placed it on my finger and said, “This ring symbolizes my Commitment. To Me, My Work in the World, and to Consciously Receiving Support from all helpful allies (seen and unseen).” I asked for guidance and blessing on this Commitment/Marriage/Union and now, when looking at it daily, feeling its weight heavy on my right index finger, remember the Commitment and Meaning. It’s become a touchstone.

Listen in as I relay a bit more of my story and the essential role of Authentic Commitment.

Dancing with the old and familiar Doubt and Confusion Sisters

Doubt. That 2nd-guessing. Wondering how it could have played out differently. Reviewing the memory over and over and wishing it were different. And, the loud voice that keeps us from taking that next step forward, asking the big question, sharing what’s real.

And/or Confusion. She’s tricky this one. She loves to keep us in “we need more info” mode, or “I’m not sure what to do next” place or “I just wish I had clarity on what is the right decision for me now” space. Been there. A lot.

And, when paired together? They activate each other. Like Synergy, but gone awry. It can get ugly.

Both of these shadow selves are present for me this week. (and are pretty familiar each time I reach an edge, a growth phase or a new chapter of my life.) They can look different, but just like someone who changes their hair color, I can recognize them. The sneaky part is that they like to appear quietly, silently hijacking my momentum, shifting gears into low (or Park) until I notice that I’m not going anywhere! I’m stalled. And then it’s a bit late.

So, this week, my amazing business coach and I were talking about them. (I’ve actually named them Debbie Doubter and Connie Confusion) and my desire to fire them, release them, remove them or heal them. The suggestion I received was to “promote” them. What????

Promoting them to come from their Gift side, their flip persona of Inquiry and Illumination felt RIGHT. Perfect. And timely. Allowing them to still be valuable and necessary parts of me and to shine from their Gifts allows me to move into bringing them forward in my life in all ways, always.

The brilliant outcome of this promotion ceremony is the more cohesive way of recognizing when they are showing up. To bring forth their gifts in each interaction and then shine from within their highest spiritual teachings of Truth and Illumination! And how these already show up as guiding values and principles for me in my life and work? Divine guidance indeed!

So let’s dive in. These are real show-stoppers and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to get on with the Show!

Authentic Brilliance

One of the things about living and leading and loving from Authenticity is that I get to be reminded, often, of the places where I still hide. It’s safe to pull back and retreat from the world. Where no one is watching (or so I believe) and I can be “little ol’ me.” Where I don’t have to put on a made-up face or dress to please anyone else. I love it!
Yet, Life is outside my front door. Being with prospects, clients, in meetings, interacting in the community and exchanging with nature. I still slip into my hiding or pretending mode, turning off my radiance, so I can fly under the radar. What am I so afraid of? What if I show up in full color, full brilliance, flying my unique banner of weirdness and alchemy and beauty?
It’s exhausting trying to fit into what everyone else expects, but even more so if those high expectations come from within. So, I’m trading them in. Trading up. Going for the Real, Raw, Truth-filled, me. What do I have to lose? I believe it’s a lot less that what I hope to gain. Self-acceptance. Self-esteem. Sovereignty. Extra energy. Self-direction. Self-guidance. Self-love. Self-lessness and serenity.

Authentic Connection

 

The peace we feel when we drop the mask, veil, armor? Wow. It feels so luscious, free and … almost spiritual.

Why do we wear all of that protection?

Where did we learn to cover up? Fake it? Tell untruths? Pretend?

Radical acceptance, deep awareness and honest looking within has been my way of connecting. First WITHIN. Then without. I was taught and modeled the opposite.

Not sure where this message will go today as I unravel more about what it feels like to live an Authentic Life. What I do know is that as lonely and invisible as I used to feel along this journey has prepared me well to live in this space. My Space. My Truth.

What is your experience of living authentically? Where is it easy? Where do you feel like you want to hide or escape or pretend, numb out and not feel?