Movement for Good

#MEtoo.

It’s become so common that no one is surprised anymore. We all just nod our heads in some type of secret solidarity.

Yet, why are we sharing from a place of shame? Or Guilt? Or Embarrassment? Or, even, with a sense of thinking we are responsible, in some awful way?

It’s time to stop the avoiding and clean up the shame, and start healing.

This open door will never swing shut again. More and more sexual assaults, inappropriate behavior, rapes kept under wraps are now seeing the light of day. The media posts new stories daily and we aren’t even bothering to read them. (Or, maybe that’s me, this is not new!)

What if…

What if we took this new-found solidarity, commonality across all women of different cultures, colors and class, and used it to fuel our Light?

What would happen if we were sharing with glee something beautiful that happened from sharing and healing to becoming more empowered, conscious and ready to tell our truth?

I’d love to discover what could happen when we realized that this totally inappropriate treatment we’ve all received was just a catalyst for igniting our realization of our value, our worth, our strength?

As we glue together the pieces where we previously thought we were broken, we heal the parts and are even more beautiful, more complex and more resilient.

The term Wabi-Sabi applies here…the Japanese believe in the beauty of impermanence and imperfection. When a piece of art or pottery is broken, they often fill the cracks with gold. Creating a more beautiful piece and honoring the imperfection.

Let’s shift into this type of #MEtoo. Let’s shift into the beauty of what we are now from the healing, growing and expansion into a more stunning piece of art? What if we shined our light through those cracks?

© 2017 Deborah LeeAnn www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Returning Home

And Turning on the Light

What am I speaking on, ranting on, sharing about or wanting to shine with today? I’m ready to open my heart and share what can be the most useful, most valuable to those who are listening.

Do I start by blessing you? Or by blessing me? Blessing my wisdom, channel Source, inspired words and the messaging reaches the audience with just what they are ready to hear and allow?

Is it my gift to share in this way?

Or is video blogging better, where I”m speaking to you more directly?

Either way, I’m not sure. When I start second-guessing, the flow becomes constricted.

OK, so Grounding. Centering. Breathing mySelf back Home.

Today, I am speaking my truth. Sharing from my heart, soul, and inspiration.

Opening up to be the brightest Lightworker I can be. Or a Whitelighter.

If you ever watched the old TV show, Charmed, you would understand the Whitelighter role. It’s the guardian angel who helps heal, guide and support the ones doing good magic in the world. Whitelighters also protect and nurture them for their intended destiny.

You see, that’s where I like to play. In the support of each of you stepping more fully into your power. Into your roles of change agent. Into the next highest, brilliant source of Good you are here to share.

Today’s leaders need Whitelighters. We all do.

It’s a universal feeling, don’t you think? To bask in the security of being watched over, guided and loved with no conditions. Reminded of who we are as we get off track and forget and held during times of illness or trauma.

It’s time we recognize we are not here to do our great work ALONE. We are much stronger, powerful, magical, effective and brilliant when we come together in unity.

But first, we need to come home. Do our inner work. Tune in, turn on and turn up our Essence. From this place, we can SHINE. We can SHARE. We can co-create. We can serve. We can live, love, lead with Authenticity, Grace, and Power.

So today is about Coming Home. Returning to our own Selves. Regenerating, renewing, remembering the power of “I am.”

Then, help others. Then, allow support in. Only then, give. From here, receive. Allow, Be guided. Inspired. Co-create.

Then we can go on out and do our Great Work.

© 2017 Deborah LeeAnn www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Fear and Vulnerability

Continuing with the theme of FEAR this week, I’m curious…

When are you most afraid – Sharing vulnerably yourself? Or being with someone else who is sharing vulnerably?

Let’s define Vulnerability:

vul·ner·a·bil·i·ty
noun
noun: vulnerability; plural noun: vulnerabilities
1.the quality or state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.

It’s been a difficult or trying week for me.

Monday was the anniversary of my wedding.

Tomorrow is the anniversary of signing the divorce papers.

Tomorrow night is the Farewell Party for my ex and his wife as they prepare to move out of the county, to a destination where our daughters will spend considerable time.

I told a former lover I couldn’t speak to him now as I am still processing our relationship ending.

And, I got the news that my application was not accepted to a co-working collaborative.

So, I’ve been sitting with all of the heaviness. The spiritual by-passing (the feeling that I SHOULD be) feeling grateful for what all HAS transpired and lessons learned. And, the emotions of grief, hurt, upset and more have washed over me. Yes, Grief has cycles and I’ve been riding them!

The difference this week is that I’ve reached out. Talked and cried and shared and asked for support. Given myself extreme self-care.

Why is that so difficult for us as powerful, independent, brilliant women?

For me? It’s a “not wanting to bother anyone” or “I don’t want to be a burden” or “who wants to talk to a whiner, a soppy mess of a friend?”

Yet, when I asked for support to attend the party? All 3 women responded “Yes! Of course!”

When I cried a bit when my trainer asked me how I was doing on the metabolic challenge cleanse this week, she was lovely and understanding why I was not following the diet to a “T”.

When my business coach asked what I thought I could do this week, and I answered honestly, she was compassionate yet firm, my plan was do-able.

When my daughter asked me how I was, I was honest. Not angry. Just sad. Not talking bad about anyone. Accepting that they are who they are and we are not in alignment anymore.

I even can feel the excitement of what might be coming next for me through the pain and loss of this time. I had another ding this morning.

And, felt into and B E Y O N D the pain and saw the echoing of old stories and patterns – now releasing. Now bowing to what is emerging. And, making way, stepping aside.

It’s such a different feeling. The gratitude for the pain. The awareness of being in the present with all that IS and all that is on its way.

The most difficult part? Has been the weirdness of sharing with others. The fear of showing up less than, broken, messy and VULNERABLE. I don’t like asking for help. As much as I coach others on Receiving…it’s not that easy for me to Allow in the support and love I SO crave. Need. Want.

So, on this All Saints Day/All Souls Day/Post Samhain/Halloween day, sandwiched between two very significant dates for me, I have called in the Magic of connection. Community, support, sharing, giving, receiving. Receiving even when I don’t ask for it. Even without reciprocation expected.

And, gratitude shows up. Appreciation. And FEAR becomes fear…and disappears.

Poof!

Ahhh…this feels so much better!

Courageous Authenticity

What are YOU Afraid of?

What is your deepest fear?

In honor of Halloween and Dia de los Muertos next week, let’s talk about fear.

Funny how lots of people like scary movies. We can laugh at the ridiculousness of the plots and know that it’s not real.

Yet, when scary stuff comes up for us, we literally cringe. Hide. Run away or freeze.

For most of us, Fear runs our life. We are so afraid of what we don’t want to happen, we are literally closing off what we do want.

It’s where we let old stories, and often younger versions of ourselves, take the driver’s seat. Where we step aside, literally, giving our power away.

I run. I hide. And, I freeze.

I veg watching Netflix. Drinking wine. Or through sex.

I get super busy. Or, stop doing anything at all in a state of depression-like coma.

All in resistance to what wants to be expressed or experienced or let in.

What am I SO afraid of? Who am I so afraid of Be-Coming?

And when I recognize it, how do I use that energy to fuel my momentum versus let it suck me back into the same-old, stuffy, suffocating space of who I used to be.

Let’s move into the next iteration of Courageous Authenticity. Where we don’t run from our Fear, or Hide from it, or even manage it. We welcome it, transform the energy of it and utilize it.

Nothing in life is wasted. All forms of energy are valuable.

What is holding you back? Where are you stopping your SHINE from radiating from you? Who do you want to show up as and how does she want to BE in the world?

Chances are, it’s exactly what you need and want that calls you forward. It’s more powerful than Fear.

Ready? I’m here with you…remember it’s a journey.

 

© 2017 Deborah LeeAnn ~ Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Letting Go Authentically

It’s harvest time for many but not for me. Autumn is my “spring cleaning” time.

Letting Go to Live More Fully is one of my mantras and I’m typically singing it as I welcome this time of year.

I’m finding myself tossing old items, giving away piles of clothing and linens, cleaning out toiletries, (how does that drawer get so cluttered?) and generally, cleaning house.

Culling from my freezer and pantry too. Getting off of mailing and email lists. Aligning my bank accounts. And, reviewing/assessing/releasing relationships. This one is the hardest.

This brings me to my topic for today. When we consciously make the decision to walk away from a person who has been a big part of our life, it’s a big deal. So is standing up and asking for things to change. And, additionally, being willing, AND READY, to leave if they don’t.

So, here is that time of year. Mastermind circles ending. My first Authentic Leadership Academy coming to a close, the realization that the romantic relationship I’m in is no longer where I’m flourishing and happy.

With all of this “letting go” comes a sense of clarity. Freedom. More space to BE. And, the fear of being “alone” is also present.

Many of my friends, clients and colleagues are coupled. If you are one, you may not understand what I’m going through, It’s been one hell of a decade since my divorce, and I thought I was done healing.

Maybe we are never done. Just like we are never complete.

Here’s to seeing where this takes me and how I’ll grow in the process!
“Landslide” cover and full Sweet Letting Go playlist on Spotify by desiremap ((Danielle LaPorte)

©2017 www.DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Wake Up White Women

What to say?

What to do?

How to be with People of Color?

I’m stuck. Truly. For one who is rarely short on words, I’m a bag of emotions.

And, not sure if I want to blame it on the mixed messages of our country’s leaders or Mercury Retrograde or centuries of history where white privilege has been the norm or the fact that my antennae are hyper focused on receiving messages that are beyond and out of alignment with what I see with my eyes…

Whiteness. White privilege. White women. White culture. We are so IN in, it’s hard to imagine NOT being in it. Yet we share this world, this country, our communities, our neighborhoods, sometimes even our families with those who do not identify as white.

Waking up is painful. It’s easier to go back to sleep. Yet, we can’t sleep this nightmare away. It’s our responsibility to at least acknowledge this isn’t right. It can’t continue. I disagree. This feels wrong.

And I am not just talking about the horrific events last weekend and the lack of accountability by our top government officials to denounce it in a way, apologize in a way, unify in a way, that I had hoped he would.

I am speaking of all ways. Always. Speaking up. Standing up. Moving beyond our fear. Showing up. Not agreeing. Or, not standing by in silence.

No more hiding. Leaders do not hide. They do their work. They SHINE their most brilliantly when the times get dark.

And, I’m learning, that SHINING is not always easy. Or pretty!

Listen in and let me know what resonates. What doesn’t? It’s time to practice opening up and sharing in a more vulnerable way. I’d love to witness that from you.

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Til our next time together, SHINE your light with love, compassion, and authenticity!