We All Can Do It, So Why Don’t We?
Do you SHINE? If you do, how do you feel when you SHINE?
If you don’t, are you afraid to SHINE? Feeling awkward or you’ll be viewed as a fraud or inauthentic? Or bragging and self-centered?
SHINE is a new way of BEing in the world. For me at least. It’s part of the journey I’ve been on and have not been able to fully articulate until now.
A month ago I shared this concept with a room full of women entrepreneurs. The response was a resounding “Yes!” and I believe I hit a chord with everyone in the room.
SHINE is the acronym for Self-Awareness, Holistic Health, Integrity, No limits, and Equanimity and Environment. This fully explains the scope of workshops and retreats and consulting all focused on Leadership Development.
What happens on the days when SHINing is NOT what you want to do?
Tune in, let’s explore this. It’s up for me today and how can we move from unSHINE to SunSHINE when it feels like that’s the last thing we want to do?
I’ll see if I can shift this less than sun-shiny funk I’m in …or not! It might just be where I am today or there might be a way to get out of it.
No promises. Here goes!
Doubt. That 2nd-guessing. Wondering how it could have played out differently. Reviewing the memory over and over and wishing it were different. And, the loud voice that keeps us from taking that next step forward, asking the big question, sharing what’s real.
And/or Confusion. She’s tricky this one. She loves to keep us in “we need more info” mode, or “I’m not sure what to do next” place or “I just wish I had clarity on what is the right decision for me now” space. Been there. A lot.
And, when paired together? They activate each other. Like Synergy, but gone awry. It can get ugly.
Both of these shadow selves are present for me this week. (and are pretty familiar each time I reach an edge, a growth phase or a new chapter of my life.) They can look different, but just like someone who changes their hair color, I can recognize them. The sneaky part is that they like to appear quietly, silently hijacking my momentum, shifting gears into low (or Park) until I notice that I’m not going anywhere! I’m stalled. And then it’s a bit late.
So, this week, my amazing business coach and I were talking about them. (I’ve actually named them Debbie Doubter and Connie Confusion) and my desire to fire them, release them, remove them or heal them. The suggestion I received was to “promote” them. What????
Promoting them to come from their Gift side, their flip persona of Inquiry and Illumination felt RIGHT. Perfect. And timely. Allowing them to still be valuable and necessary parts of me and to shine from their Gifts allows me to move into bringing them forward in my life in all ways, always.
The brilliant outcome of this promotion ceremony is the more cohesive way of recognizing when they are showing up. To bring forth their gifts in each interaction and then shine from within their highest spiritual teachings of Truth and Illumination! And how these already show up as guiding values and principles for me in my life and work? Divine guidance indeed!
So let’s dive in. These are real show-stoppers and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to get on with the Show!