Perspective

Perspective.
It’s tricky. And we believe there’s only one. ours.
What are you looking for in that person who drives you nuts every day?What are you expecting when you get home at night from your partner?

What pre-conceived ideas are you bringing into a meeting versus being open-minded and ready to listen and learn?

When we operate from the place that we already know we will be disappointed, or that our mate is selfish or that this is just another boring meeting with the boss, we get to be right, more often than not.

How do we change our perspective?

Walk around and look at the issue, person, relationship or challenge from all sides. Invite others to share what they see (if it involves them or you value their viewpoint) or literally put on different lenses.

Just like wearing sunglasses can sometimes alter the color of an object, or wearing reading glasses can help some of us see the letters more clearly, looking at an issue from the other side or with a lens of curiosity gives us a wider range of options and potential solutions.

We often have disagreements with people (especially online these days, it seems) for seeing political or social issues from different viewpoints. What if both sides are valid and the Truth is neither or both?

And, when we bring our negative views forward or grudges from past experiences to the table, it’s not fair for anyone. Not the person we are judging, not the potential outcome for all involved, not for ourself. It’s limiting and another place to expand our awareness.

Where do you place your lens of perception? With whom do you look for the best? What about yourSelf? Do you give yourSelf the benefit of a doubt or automatically say, “You are so stupid/klutzy/silly/ugly/fat _______(insert your word here).” “There’s no way you’ll get this done in time.” “You’re always late.”

OR…

“You are amazing!” “You look beautiful today!” “ I believe in you, and we’re just learning this new exercise/process/technology/way of operating.” “Great progress – you’re becoming more aware every day.” “Let’s change the time we leave so we can feel better and arrive on time.”

It’s all in how we look at things. It’s all in the self-talk. It’s also, all in how we look at others and our relationships. I’m looking.for more good in mine today, how about you?

Authentic Commitment :: The C Word

What are you committed to? What will you do – no matter what else happens – every day?

Commitment usually comes up in relationships. Yet, the most important relationship we have is the one with ourself. How are you doing in that one? Do you tend to commit to others and then slide on your word or commitment to yourself?

I do. I have. And, I’m aware of it now. We can’t build Trust with ourSelf unless we commit to ourSelf. Commit and keep our word to ourSelf.

Self-Trust is the driver that sees my dreams and visions through to reality. It’s the fuel that keeps me moving forward even when it’s tough, or I don’t feel like it, or there’s too much on my plate already.

When I commit to something, it tends to get done.

Goal setting has never been motivating to me. However, when I make a commitment to greet the sky each morning and stretch and touch my toes, breathing in connection to the stars, sun, moon, Earth, I know it’s the foundation of my day. Things tend to be easier. I’m grounded and in the flow.

I can expand the practice if I have more time or leave it at just one minute. The key is to do it every day.  It’s a sign of commitment to Momentum and Trust in Self and the Universe’s support and my work in the world.

While listening to a spiritual teacher yesterday who talked about Commitment, I got it. There are lots of things I say I want to do, I am doing or are written in my journal, but what am I committed to?

A few months back, I actually held my own Commitment Ceremony. I found a ring that had been sitting in my jewelry drawer for ages and placed it on my finger and said, “This ring symbolizes my Commitment. To Me, My Work in the World, and to Consciously Receiving Support from all helpful allies (seen and unseen).” I asked for guidance and blessing on this Commitment/Marriage/Union and now, when looking at it daily, feeling its weight heavy on my right index finger, remember the Commitment and Meaning. It’s become a touchstone.

Listen in as I relay a bit more of my story and the essential role of Authentic Commitment.

Dancing with the old and familiar Doubt and Confusion Sisters

Doubt. That 2nd-guessing. Wondering how it could have played out differently. Reviewing the memory over and over and wishing it were different. And, the loud voice that keeps us from taking that next step forward, asking the big question, sharing what’s real.

And/or Confusion. She’s tricky this one. She loves to keep us in “we need more info” mode, or “I’m not sure what to do next” place or “I just wish I had clarity on what is the right decision for me now” space. Been there. A lot.

And, when paired together? They activate each other. Like Synergy, but gone awry. It can get ugly.

Both of these shadow selves are present for me this week. (and are pretty familiar each time I reach an edge, a growth phase or a new chapter of my life.) They can look different, but just like someone who changes their hair color, I can recognize them. The sneaky part is that they like to appear quietly, silently hijacking my momentum, shifting gears into low (or Park) until I notice that I’m not going anywhere! I’m stalled. And then it’s a bit late.

So, this week, my amazing business coach and I were talking about them. (I’ve actually named them Debbie Doubter and Connie Confusion) and my desire to fire them, release them, remove them or heal them. The suggestion I received was to “promote” them. What????

Promoting them to come from their Gift side, their flip persona of Inquiry and Illumination felt RIGHT. Perfect. And timely. Allowing them to still be valuable and necessary parts of me and to shine from their Gifts allows me to move into bringing them forward in my life in all ways, always.

The brilliant outcome of this promotion ceremony is the more cohesive way of recognizing when they are showing up. To bring forth their gifts in each interaction and then shine from within their highest spiritual teachings of Truth and Illumination! And how these already show up as guiding values and principles for me in my life and work? Divine guidance indeed!

So let’s dive in. These are real show-stoppers and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to get on with the Show!

An Authentic Invitation for you, Sweet Sister

 

Years ago this book arrived in a gift bag with several other items from a friend who saw me better than I saw myself.

I devoured it.

Each word sang to me, woke me up, brought a resonance to my soul that has long been asleep.

And, it seems to call to me each time I need to wake up again.

Are you waking up? If so, it can be daunting. The lights seem so bright, the sounds too loud. The activity too busy. And, it makes us want to dive back into our covers and go back to sleep.

Yet, these times are calling us out of slumber. Whether courageous and wanting to risk, grow and change or not, we are unable to find the comfort in slumber we used to.

We have been preparing for this. We know that, on some level, we are ready. And, here is my invitation to you. Listen in and stay awake. We’ve been holding it together for too long.

Authentic Brilliance

One of the things about living and leading and loving from Authenticity is that I get to be reminded, often, of the places where I still hide. It’s safe to pull back and retreat from the world. Where no one is watching (or so I believe) and I can be “little ol’ me.” Where I don’t have to put on a made-up face or dress to please anyone else. I love it!
Yet, Life is outside my front door. Being with prospects, clients, in meetings, interacting in the community and exchanging with nature. I still slip into my hiding or pretending mode, turning off my radiance, so I can fly under the radar. What am I so afraid of? What if I show up in full color, full brilliance, flying my unique banner of weirdness and alchemy and beauty?
It’s exhausting trying to fit into what everyone else expects, but even more so if those high expectations come from within. So, I’m trading them in. Trading up. Going for the Real, Raw, Truth-filled, me. What do I have to lose? I believe it’s a lot less that what I hope to gain. Self-acceptance. Self-esteem. Sovereignty. Extra energy. Self-direction. Self-guidance. Self-love. Self-lessness and serenity.

Authentic Balance

Authenticity requires taking time off, a pause, a break.

I’m doing that this week. Nothing like being reminded when you don’t actually get the choice! (I’ve been fighting an infected spider bite cluster and now have the flu.)

And, since we are heading into the Equinox this weekend, when daylight and night are the closest to equal before tipping into longer days, it’s the perfect time to balance.

What needs Balancing within you, ~Contact.FirstName~?  Where are you over doing? Forcing something? Striving?  And how much are you Being? Surrendering? Being still and listening, then acting, on inspired actions to move forward with your most Authentic Life?

There’s also an invitation for you below to join the Spring 2017 cohort of the Authentic Leadership Academy.

We are ready for 9 more women to say “Yes!” to their next Self, whether they are clear on what or who that might be or not.  This is the safe circle you have been yearning for to grow into your next chapter, with training, coaching, masterminding and supportive accountability all built in.

See you next week and happy Spring!

Until then, listen in the rebroadcast of Authentic Gratitude from a previous post.