Authentic Balance… Is it Possible?

Today I was wide awake listening to the birds around 3:30 am. I didn’t know that was the time and I enjoyed the variety of birdsong for quite a while before getting up. When I saw the time, my mind went crazy. “OMG, it’s too early! Get back to sleep. You’ve got a long and very full day ahead of you with leaving town in the morning!”

And, sleep never fully returned. My to-do list was forming in my head; my spirit was nudging me on some clearing out, cleaning out to make way for new; my heart wondering who else I’m meaning to connect with and how to make that happen before the Academy next week; my body wondering if a walk or yoga stretches would be better to start the energy moving. And each voice had a valid point.

I began looking for an old ledger that came to mind (acting on inspiration sometimes takes you in strange directions) and I began seeing the last 10 years of finance and tax files I had lumped on the floor when moving my file cabinets. Replacing them in their rightful space felt honoring of my financial history (and money relationship in general) and the floor has reclaimed some space. Just the beginning of getting that office spring cleaned!

Coming downstairs, I decided cleaning off the glass dining room table was next. It’s been bothering me that the glass had smudges on it and that tolerance of stuff bothering us? It’s a sign to clean it up.

Feng Shui is about balancing of the energies. It’s about honoring the space around you. Creating a sacred space to create, love, live and connect on all levels.

When there is too much Yang energy (all light colors, lots of sharp angles and fiery energy) it can feel chaotic. Too much Yin energy (dark colors, soft and rounded shapes and low light) creates a space for sleep and resting, but not much action. What is the right balance for work? For play? For love? For creativity? For you?

I’m learning that the glass-topped tables are symbolic of water and emotions. There’s a lot of glass in my home to balance the earth, metal and fire elements that are present.

And, when they get cluttered, dirty with drink circles or fingerprints, it’s annoying to me. When clean, they sparkle, shine, reflect and show the beautiful rugs below, or highlight what is placed on top.

Where can you create more beauty? More space? Clearing away to allow for new? AND, what is the right balance of Action and Being that serves you?

As a borderline Introvert, I can be out at networking events, social gatherings or delivering a workshop, then need to return home to my haven for renewal and replenishing of my energy. I love that my home has lots of items that make me smile with their beauty, memory or meaning.

Balance is when we are able to find what is true and right for us. When we honor our mind, heart, body and spirit. When we feel our connection to all that is, seen and unseen. It’s going to look and feel differently for everyone. The key is for you to find your’s and then continue to tune in to discern what needs to be tweaked back into balance.

Authentic Connection


The peace we feel when we drop the mask, veil, armor? Wow. It feels so luscious, free and … almost spiritual.

Why do we wear all of that protection?

Where did we learn to cover up? Fake it? Tell untruths? Pretend?

Radical acceptance, deep awareness and honest looking within has been my way of connecting. First WITHIN. Then without. I was taught and modeled the opposite.

Not sure where this message will go today as I unravel more about what it feels like to live an Authentic Life. What I do know is that as lonely and invisible as I used to feel along this journey has prepared me well to live in this space. My Space. My Truth.

What is your experience of living authentically? Where is it easy? Where do you feel like you want to hide or escape or pretend, numb out and not feel?

Authentic Wisdom Within

Why do I keep looking outside myself for more guidance, wisdom and learning? There is SO much within just waiting for me to tap into it.

How many books are you reading currently?

I am in the middle of several leadership books, one on the Awakened Warrior, one on Culture, one on Leadership development and another on The Spirit of Leadership. Each offering e a different perspective, new ways of looking at this fascinating topic for me.

And, while integrating all of this additional knowledge, where do I rely on what I already know? What I instinctively and intuiitvely understand? Why do I feel like I am “needing” to learn more, before I’m ready to share with others?

Yesterday I went to the Social System Design Lab at Washington University’s Brown School of Social Work. There, with the new Director, we envisioned several ways to use the lab to map out the various levels and numerous factors that are going into leadership culture today and how to use these materials to support leadership development for organizations into the future.

Fascinating. Creating something NEW. Not another’s idea. But mine, co-created with another’s.

Let’s dive into why we feel we need to keep looking outside ourSelves for wisdom, when we are sitting on a goldmine of knowledge within.

Authentic Anger

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned…

Authentic anger, especially for women, looks very different than a lot of we’ve been seeing, or what we’ve been taught, or what . AND, It’s true that women have a millennia or two worth of of actions and historical events and current events to be angry about.

I am and the perfect example. It was the first emotion available in my palette that allowed me to really feel and to tap into what was mine. My truth. My Authenticity. My Essence.

For that reason I think once opened to it, women tend use it as it as a weapon. As way of showing how strong and powerful we are.

A woman’s anger (picture the power of mother Earth’s storms!) is a lashing out, a destructive force. It’s a force you can’t deny. And, it’s often quick and swift. It’s a balancing of energy. It’s about standing strong in our essence, in our conviction and passion, declaring our truth.

It’s not a lot of words. It’s not a lot about the hurting of another. It’s not making the other pay or share in what’s our’s. It’s not about making a point by tearing down the other’s ego – be it physically, emotionally, spiritually.

It’s sad that we have not learned the teachings of Martin Luther King, Jr. and Gandhi around nonviolent conflict, peaceful protesting and working together TOWARDS an end, versus FIGHTING AGAINST the other. There’s a way of making a point with clarity and courageous conviction, sometimes even more so without words.

This reminds me of the Compassionate Samurai. A samurai warrior is trained in all of the martial arts and trains his body to be strong and powerful and also to open his heart. Open his/her mind in a way of serving for all. It’s it’s about dropping our ego, standing tall for the collective.

This is where a woman’s anger can be very affective. When we are fighting for our child or for the rights of all women, or a beloved, we do so in a forward thinking type of way. We want to create change that leads us towards where. We. Want. To. Go. (versus fighting back at what has happened)

This has to be a changed in our mindset. We can change our belief system to learn that what has happened has been the catalyst that turned on this emotion and power and sharpens our senses, and from there, discern how we will move or take action or respond in a way that generates momentum to build what we want.

Join me as we transform our Authentic Anger into the energy that spurs us as compassionate leaders, heard and seen as powerful, strategic, grounded and leading towards change.

Authentic Life :: It’s Not Always Easy

Authentic Life, what is it?

More importantly, Why did I agree to it? And, have the strong nudge to teach it, share it, model it for others?

Here I am, sitting with a boatload of ideas, plans and projects, and I’m playing this game with myself. Authentic Life is about eating, living, leading, loving from our truth, our wholeness, our realness. NOT what we always want others to see.

As I prepare to invite friends and neighbors over to my home for class on Cleaning without Chemicals, and a few workshops on using Essential Oils for a healthy, holistic support system for change and emotional wellness, I’m frozen. Why?

I’m worried I’ll be a bother. People are busy. They don’t want to add something else to their calendar.

OR, do they? What if my discomfort is not about them. It’s my stuff. Managing my fear of what they will think. Funny, on Facebook, I’m not hiding as much as I do in person. When it comes to reaching out via phone or text.

What if I’m not inviting them and they WANT to learn, grow, become more aligned with who they want to become as Authentic Leaders who lead with Grace and Power?

What if my sharing of this information would help heal them and their families by incorporating a new paradigm of seeing how to live with less chemicals in their bodies, homes, lives? What if they want to make a difference for our planet?

I’m getting on the phone. To share about my little classes and workshops, as well as to invite them into a larger vision. One where we all come together and learn from each other. Talk, share, love, grow in community? (LIke my mom did in the old days when the neighborhood moms met for coffee at each other’s houses?)

Where do you need to stand up and share some of your wisdom? Where are you allowing others to take your power? Your voice? Your vision? I’m taking a stand for me, my power and vision today.

Join me?

Authentic Expansion – Are you Ready? (Am I ready?)

As I connect to my vision for 2017 (and beyond) it seems too big, too much and that I’m not ready or worthy of it. Before my mind begins to doubt and close off possibilities, I move into a place of connecting to all that is and allow for the Higher Self to step in. She knows, in her own wise way, that this is my game. My modus operandi. My way of chickening out of the bigger game I’m here to play.

Where are you shying away from your great work? Who is supporting you in helping you remember what your heart desires? Do you have a strong knowing that you are part of a bigger plan? Do you get glimpses of what it is or is it clearly formed in your mind?

I’ll be sharing my side of this process. Join me. Ask the same questions of yourself and see where they might take you!