What You Think of Me Is None of My Business

Thanks, I’ve got this.

No really, I do!

You see, what YOU think of ME, is none of my business.

I read that book. About 40 years ago, in fact. Here’s a link, if you’re curious.


It had a profound effect on me then, and it still does.

Yet, I forget. I worry about what to write and how to write it and how to show up in what clothes and what people think and the feedback I get (even if it is good!)

How can we get OVER ourselves? Follow our own guidance and trust when it’s time to ask for guidance from others. There is a huge difference.

I’d like to tell you a story about how other’s were concerned about me 10 years ago and how I switched it back and took back my power – and it was magical!

I was divorced, running out of money and networking all over town to find the perfect job that would utilize my talents, give me the flexibility to be Mom to my middle-school-aged daughters and pay me enough for my household expenses as I was not receiving child support.

A dear friend and my mother both shared with me they were concerned (afraid, actually) for me and worried about when I was going to find a job. I assured them both, calmly and assertively, that I wanted only their confidence in me and to imagine me happily working and paying my bills. They both agreed and within the next month or so, not one but TWO contracts for my consulting work were signed!

So, let’s get back IN-to our own self, stop minding others’ business and ask politely that they not get into ours unless invited.

©2018 http://DeborahLeeAnn.com Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Authentic Sharing :: Ready to SHINE

Even though I spoke these words last week, they are as true today as ever.

Where are you playing small?

Where do you lose your value?

When do you dim your light?

It’s time. For us to INHALE the inspiration we are constantly receiving, and EXHALE our creative spin on it. Our voices, art, written words, and dance are needed now.

We are all stepping up. Stepping IN. Stepping forward. Marching together towards change.

Conscious leadership is required of us all. And that means showing up. SHINING brightly. No apologies. No more hiding.

Ready? Let’s do this.

Join me for a free training next week to kick off Self-Love Month. Details can be found on my website, Facebook, Instagram or LinkedIn profiles.

© 2018 http://DeborahLeeAnn.com
Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

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Leadership Magic

Leadership Magic – my Theme for 2018

It’s a topsy-turvy, sometimes High, sometimes low world right now, right?

The optimism and clarity I felt on New Year’s Day and even the 2nd were exhilarating and I was excited to return to “work” from my short sabbatical.

Yet, today, after waking early to an inspiration that I recorded before falling back to sleep, the rest of the day has taken me in circles. Back into spirals of grief, forward into the thrills of new meetings and opportunities on the horizon, then deep into self-critical stuff. Probably all before I finished my 2nd cup of coffee!

Well, I’m back into the swing again here, after honoring my feelings and listening to intuition…and ready to get into it!

So, what is Leadership Magic?

It’s the inner glow you have when you are:

  • Self-Empowered
  • Self-Authoring
  • Self-Loving
  • Self-Valuing
  • Self-Responsible and
  • Self-Aware

We’ll be playing with these areas and defining the concepts as we move throughout the first quarter of 2018.

SHINE is still my signature though, as it’s the foundation for true Leadership Magic.

I’m just playing deeper with the concepts of the intrinsic light that we have and so often dim or turn off due to fear, failure, or to “fit in”.

So, let’s get started, shall we?

Leadership Magic begins with Power. And to turn on your Power, it’s essential to have a Vision. To be Open to Possibilities. To TRUST. And to be Present, showing up with a radiant Presence.

Lots of emphases here as we can’t get where we want to go without these basics.

So, here’s my take on each of them. Enjoy!

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Cultivating our Character in the New Axial Era

Did you know we are in the New Axial Era? A pivotal time when converging thoughts/philosophies/cultures/religions are driving us to an evolution of humanity?

The first one occurred in the first millennium BCE.

The phrase originated with the German psychiatrist and philosopher Karl Jaspers, who noted that during this period there was a shift—or a turn, as if on an axis—away from more predominantly localized concerns and toward transcendence.

(love this, as I’m all about Transcendence and Transformation…)

More info is here: https://www.britannica.com/list/the-axial-age-5-fast-facts

We are on the wave of a New Axial Era. A pivot point.

The importance of Character and its role in Education, Leadership, and Community is not a new concept. However, it ‘s been lost amidst our reverence for Science and Technology, Math and Engineering.

We’ve left philosophy and religion to pick up the education and development of Character (what makes you uniquely you) as now it’s time to drive the forging of discovering and developing our Character Strengths with areas of Passion and to fuel and create change.

That is shifting now.

Media and the millennials are driving forward the merging of personal passions with innovation to create an impact on the world. And we all need to get on board.

AND, today is Character Day 2017!

When I first heard about it from change agent, Karen Hoffman, Founder of Gateway to Dreams, (just to name one of her entrepreneurial pursuits) I thought, “Oh, this is cool. Segues nicely with my work, happy to be a part of it.”

However, in the weeks leading up to it as an Ambassador and Facilitator of this global event occurring in hundreds of countries and all 50 states on the same day, I’ve gotten more excited.

Blending beautiful video imagery with both local and global discussions and interaction can be illuminating for all involved and can truly ignite the fires of creativity and community change we are ready for.

Find an event near you or at least watch the movies at http://www.letitripple.org/character-day/

And as always, SHINE on with YOUR unique Character Strengths and Passion! How can you use them in Creating the Change YOU want to see?

©️Copyright 2017 DeborahLeeAnn.com and Authentic Leadership Academy & Consulting

Science and Spirituality

Of our Eclipse Season

This is a big month. For someone who is not oriented to the stars and planets and patterns they play out, it’s still important to note that these are extraordinary circumstances.

We are all effected by the planetary systems, our moon and sun in particular.

AND, when they cross over each other in their paths? That’s a big deal.

It’s rare to have this total solar eclipse be visible from the US. And, really fun that the path crosses right through our area!

Typically, this time can be considered a time when all brightness and shadows become one. A collapsing of dualities.

We are not all Light. Nor are we all Dark. This union of them is such a scientific marvel and a beautiful spiritual model for us as well.

Since we have so much chaos surrounding us, and even more that will be revealed during the coming month, it’s another call for Authenticity. Leadership with Authenticity is based on Integrity, rooted in Self-Awareness, a conscious model of both connection with others and a deep connection within.

Let’s dive in and see where this week’s podcast takes us. How fun that the SHINE Principle continues to grow and unfold for both mySelf and my community… it’s even being modeled by the heavens above us!

More info on all of the celestial happenings this month can be seen here:

Curious about the SHINE Principle? Check out the events on Facebook or the details here:http://DeborahLeeAnn.com/SHINE

Authentic Balance… Is it Possible?

Today I was wide awake listening to the birds around 3:30 am. I didn’t know that was the time and I enjoyed the variety of birdsong for quite a while before getting up. When I saw the time, my mind went crazy. “OMG, it’s too early! Get back to sleep. You’ve got a long and very full day ahead of you with leaving town in the morning!”

And, sleep never fully returned. My to-do list was forming in my head; my spirit was nudging me on some clearing out, cleaning out to make way for new; my heart wondering who else I’m meaning to connect with and how to make that happen before the Academy next week; my body wondering if a walk or yoga stretches would be better to start the energy moving. And each voice had a valid point.

I began looking for an old ledger that came to mind (acting on inspiration sometimes takes you in strange directions) and I began seeing the last 10 years of finance and tax files I had lumped on the floor when moving my file cabinets. Replacing them in their rightful space felt honoring of my financial history (and money relationship in general) and the floor has reclaimed some space. Just the beginning of getting that office spring cleaned!

Coming downstairs, I decided cleaning off the glass dining room table was next. It’s been bothering me that the glass had smudges on it and that tolerance of stuff bothering us? It’s a sign to clean it up.

Feng Shui is about balancing of the energies. It’s about honoring the space around you. Creating a sacred space to create, love, live and connect on all levels.

When there is too much Yang energy (all light colors, lots of sharp angles and fiery energy) it can feel chaotic. Too much Yin energy (dark colors, soft and rounded shapes and low light) creates a space for sleep and resting, but not much action. What is the right balance for work? For play? For love? For creativity? For you?

I’m learning that the glass-topped tables are symbolic of water and emotions. There’s a lot of glass in my home to balance the earth, metal and fire elements that are present.

And, when they get cluttered, dirty with drink circles or fingerprints, it’s annoying to me. When clean, they sparkle, shine, reflect and show the beautiful rugs below, or highlight what is placed on top.

Where can you create more beauty? More space? Clearing away to allow for new? AND, what is the right balance of Action and Being that serves you?

As a borderline Introvert, I can be out at networking events, social gatherings or delivering a workshop, then need to return home to my haven for renewal and replenishing of my energy. I love that my home has lots of items that make me smile with their beauty, memory or meaning.

Balance is when we are able to find what is true and right for us. When we honor our mind, heart, body and spirit. When we feel our connection to all that is, seen and unseen. It’s going to look and feel differently for everyone. The key is for you to find your’s and then continue to tune in to discern what needs to be tweaked back into balance.