We All Can Do It, So Why Don’t We?
SHINE is a new way of BEing in the world. For me at least. It’s part of the journey I’ve been on and have not been able to fully articulate until now.
A month ago I shared this concept with a room full of women entrepreneurs. The response was a resounding “Yes!” and I believe I hit a chord with everyone in the room.
SHINE is the acronym for Self-Awareness, Holistic Health, Integrity, No limits, and Equanimity and Environment. This fully explains the scope of workshops and retreats and consulting all focused on Leadership Development.
What happens on the days when SHINing is NOT what you want to do?
Tune in, let’s explore this. It’s up for me today and how can we move from unSHINE to SunSHINE when it feels like that’s the last thing we want to do?
I’ll see if I can shift this less than sun-shiny funk I’m in …or not! It might just be where I am today or there might be a way to get out of it.
No promises. Here goes!
Creating It. Sharing it. Opening to It.
Space in your home, job, relationship, a schedule that is just for you?Do you safeguard it? Treasure it? Honor it?
OR…do you feel like there’s no time, no room, no freedom to have such a luxury in your life?
What do I mean by Sacred Space?
My home is my Sacred Space. So are my gardens. My bedroom. My workspace. My meditation room.
Being in Nature is Sacred to me. Time alone is Sacred to me. Space in my relationships is Sacred too! And, especially, time on my calendar each day and every week for tuning into this Space.
And it has been also a place for me to hide. I love Solitude. Silence. Space to be still, be wild, dance and sing as I feel the urge. AND, I’ve used this as a fortress to keep away the intimacy, (both romantic and sister-friendship) that I also crave.
How to manage the Space with the Sharing of it?
I’m a new AirBnB host. I’ve opened up a portion of my small home to visitors from around the world who are coming to St. Louis to visit.
Yikes! This is a big deal. Not just the cleaning and clearing of closets, it’s the sharing of my SPACE. How will this effect my own work and love life? There’s already a day I had planned to be out of town and I’m supposed to be hosting.
Yet, it’s important for me to trust this process. It’s next on the swing back from living with NO space, not even knowing how to find it or own it to the opposite end of the spectrum, creating, protecting it, honoring it and NOT sharing at all.
Now, it’s time to share part time. Open my home. My heart. My business.
The new possibilities are endless. I’m excited to see what comes of this. New friends? A new way to work keeping order and organization? Extra Income? A way to write off housecleaning? The space set aside for VIP Clients?
The connections to all of this are not lost on me. And the timing is exquisite as I open to allowing a broader more expansive version of my work to emerge.
How do you maintain your Space? Physically? Emotionally? Intellectually? Spiritually?
I’d be delighted to connect with you more on this subject. Reach out if you feel this hit a chord and it’s time!
SHINE on dear One. The world needs you and your light.
It’s tricky. And we believe there’s only one. ours.
What are you looking for in that person who drives you nuts every day?What are you expecting when you get home at night from your partner?
What pre-conceived ideas are you bringing into a meeting versus being open-minded and ready to listen and learn?
When we operate from the place that we already know we will be disappointed, or that our mate is selfish or that this is just another boring meeting with the boss, we get to be right, more often than not.
How do we change our perspective?
Walk around and look at the issue, person, relationship or challenge from all sides. Invite others to share what they see (if it involves them or you value their viewpoint) or literally put on different lenses.
Just like wearing sunglasses can sometimes alter the color of an object, or wearing reading glasses can help some of us see the letters more clearly, looking at an issue from the other side or with a lens of curiosity gives us a wider range of options and potential solutions.
We often have disagreements with people (especially online these days, it seems) for seeing political or social issues from different viewpoints. What if both sides are valid and the Truth is neither or both?
And, when we bring our negative views forward or grudges from past experiences to the table, it’s not fair for anyone. Not the person we are judging, not the potential outcome for all involved, not for ourself. It’s limiting and another place to expand our awareness.
Where do you place your lens of perception? With whom do you look for the best? What about yourSelf? Do you give yourSelf the benefit of a doubt or automatically say, “You are so stupid/klutzy/silly/ugly/fat _______(insert your word here).” “There’s no way you’ll get this done in time.” “You’re always late.”
“You are amazing!” “You look beautiful today!” “ I believe in you, and we’re just learning this new exercise/process/technology/way of operating.” “Great progress – you’re becoming more aware every day.” “Let’s change the time we leave so we can feel better and arrive on time.”
It’s all in how we look at things. It’s all in the self-talk. It’s also, all in how we look at others and our relationships. I’m looking.for more good in mine today, how about you?
Remember Occupy Wall Street?
How protesters camped out to make sure their message was received? They physically and literally stood their ground asking to be heard.
Same with the folks who gathered for weeks at Standing Rock, protesting and blocking the progress of the pipeline across their lands. Even amidst the bitter cold and water blasts from law enforcement, they stayed put…chanting, praying, and in nonviolent protest.
What do you stand for?
Who do you stand for?
Typically, most of us have a cause or our children/family that will activate our inner protester.
What is yours?
When the Occupy movement was happening, I started looking at where I was spending my money. And, who these companies supported politically. I learned that many of my monthly bills were heading to coffers that were backing legislation that wasn’t aligned with my values.
That meant my money was going towards creating a world that was not in alignment to what I knew I wanted. So, I protested, in my own way. I left one communications company and found another that was a nonprofit, donating profits monthly toward causes I believed in. I shopped at stores that had a scorecard towards my values politically, environmentally, energetically. I did stay with my financial institution due to the relationships and history there but got out of another messy financial relationship.
All in all, I felt cleaner, more in alignment and happier.
It came up again the other day as I was planning for some upcoming workshops and retreats. It’s important to me that all of the activities that have my name on them be in alignment with my values, my vision, my voice.
Tune in today to learn more about how you can Occupy yourSelf and use your power to create change.
Be the Change…It’s time to put your time, energy, money and power where your heart is.
What are you committed to? What will you do – no matter what else happens – every day?
Commitment usually comes up in relationships. Yet, the most important relationship we have is the one with ourself. How are you doing in that one? Do you tend to commit to others and then slide on your word or commitment to yourself?
I do. I have. And, I’m aware of it now. We can’t build Trust with ourSelf unless we commit to ourSelf. Commit and keep our word to ourSelf.
Self-Trust is the driver that sees my dreams and visions through to reality. It’s the fuel that keeps me moving forward even when it’s tough, or I don’t feel like it, or there’s too much on my plate already.
When I commit to something, it tends to get done.
Goal setting has never been motivating to me. However, when I make a commitment to greet the sky each morning and stretch and touch my toes, breathing in connection to the stars, sun, moon, Earth, I know it’s the foundation of my day. Things tend to be easier. I’m grounded and in the flow.
I can expand the practice if I have more time or leave it at just one minute. The key is to do it every day. It’s a sign of commitment to Momentum and Trust in Self and the Universe’s support and my work in the world.
While listening to a spiritual teacher yesterday who talked about Commitment, I got it. There are lots of things I say I want to do, I am doing or are written in my journal, but what am I committed to?
A few months back, I actually held my own Commitment Ceremony. I found a ring that had been sitting in my jewelry drawer for ages and placed it on my finger and said, “This ring symbolizes my Commitment. To Me, My Work in the World, and to Consciously Receiving Support from all helpful allies (seen and unseen).” I asked for guidance and blessing on this Commitment/Marriage/Union and now, when looking at it daily, feeling its weight heavy on my right index finger, remember the Commitment and Meaning. It’s become a touchstone.
Listen in as I relay a bit more of my story and the essential role of Authentic Commitment.
Doubt. That 2nd-guessing. Wondering how it could have played out differently. Reviewing the memory over and over and wishing it were different. And, the loud voice that keeps us from taking that next step forward, asking the big question, sharing what’s real.
And/or Confusion. She’s tricky this one. She loves to keep us in “we need more info” mode, or “I’m not sure what to do next” place or “I just wish I had clarity on what is the right decision for me now” space. Been there. A lot.
And, when paired together? They activate each other. Like Synergy, but gone awry. It can get ugly.
Both of these shadow selves are present for me this week. (and are pretty familiar each time I reach an edge, a growth phase or a new chapter of my life.) They can look different, but just like someone who changes their hair color, I can recognize them. The sneaky part is that they like to appear quietly, silently hijacking my momentum, shifting gears into low (or Park) until I notice that I’m not going anywhere! I’m stalled. And then it’s a bit late.
So, this week, my amazing business coach and I were talking about them. (I’ve actually named them Debbie Doubter and Connie Confusion) and my desire to fire them, release them, remove them or heal them. The suggestion I received was to “promote” them. What????
Promoting them to come from their Gift side, their flip persona of Inquiry and Illumination felt RIGHT. Perfect. And timely. Allowing them to still be valuable and necessary parts of me and to shine from their Gifts allows me to move into bringing them forward in my life in all ways, always.
The brilliant outcome of this promotion ceremony is the more cohesive way of recognizing when they are showing up. To bring forth their gifts in each interaction and then shine from within their highest spiritual teachings of Truth and Illumination! And how these already show up as guiding values and principles for me in my life and work? Divine guidance indeed!
So let’s dive in. These are real show-stoppers and I don’t know about you, but I’m ready to get on with the Show!
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